Found out 7 weeks pregnant - my partner died a little over four weeks ago

[JessyKate82]

I am at a loss I just don’t know what to do. I put early symptoms down to stress and now I am distraught. We met in first year of uni 5 years ago moved in together in third year I loved him with all my heart but I don’t know if I can bring his child into this world on my own. It seems unreal do I/should I tell his family I just don’t know what to do.

No real advice but couldn’t read and run. So sorry for your loss. Do you have family close by that could support you? Are you close to his family? It might be hard for them to hear you are pregnant if you don’t decide to keep it, but hard to say what they’d feel without knowing them. What does your heart say to do?

What a difficult situation for you OP, I’m sorry for your loss. I think it would be a good idea to get some counselling before you come to any decisions or tell his family. Are you currently involved with any bereavement charities or similar?

Can you tell your own parents first. You can do it on your own - but you need to get support first.
Are you still at uni or working? Did you live together? Uni may have counselling services available otherwise try your GP - take folic acid in the meanwhile. This is your body and your decision.

Oh my goodness OP

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Please don't make any drastic decisions yet. You need to process this.

Much love

I'm so sorry op. My advice is to keep this news to yourself until you decide what to do, and if you do decide to end the pregnancy, I would not tell his family about it.

OP no advice but just wanted to send you love at this difficult time. So sorry for your loss, you must be completely overwhelmed. I would second getting some initial support from a bereavement or other charity, eg Cruse who have a helpline

I am so very sorry for your loss. It’s still such early days I can’t imagine how confusing and overwhelming this must feel for you. I agree with PPs. Think it would be extremely difficult to involve his family at this stage, at least until you have a clear mind yourself. Have you a trusted friend or relative you can speak to?? Or can you access a counselling service? ( If you’re employed, many workplaces offer a free, confidential counselling service).

Wishing you strength at this very sad time 💐

I'm presuming from the timings here that you are quite young? There's obviously a lot to consider here, but I'd agree with those saying that, if you have the sort of relationship to do this, you should discuss with your parents, but don't let anyone pressure you into anything.

So sorry for your loss OP! Couldn't imagine being in your position, do what you think is best for you and your future, don't tell anyone yet, You need to let it sink in first and decide what you want to do ❤️ 💐

OP I didn't want to read and run. I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to imagine what you must be going through and how you must be feeling. I think PP's have given all the advice I could. Please talk to someone, can you access counselling through your GP/NHS/uni/work? Are you close to your family and there's someone who can help you with your thought process? Talking through things will help you get to the decision that is right for you (someone independent who won't try to sway you either way is probably best). Definitely in the meantime take folic acid in case you do decide to keep the baby. Sending you a hand hold

I am so sorry. I echo other posters who wouldnt tell until you know what you are doing.
Also getting some counselling.
What a difficult decision you have to make.

Can you talk to your own family? How much support would you get? At least you found out early and you've got a few weeks to make up your mind. My sympathies whatever you decide

Sorry for your loss.

I alao second not saying anything to his family until you know what you want to do. I would see your GP to ascertain when you need to make an actual decision by should you decide you do notnwish to continue with the pregnancy.

Is there someone you could talk to inconfidence who wouldn't spread it about? Maybe even a counsellor if you don't want to tell someone irl

Take your time OP. You've had the most awful time. Can't imagine how difficult it is for you. Please talk to someone you trust.

Morning @JessyKate82. How are you today? I hope you had a good sleep. You will find the strength to make the right decision for you. And you have time. I hope there’s someone you can talk to xx

Don’t make any decisions yet. You still have weeks to decide. Focus on you first.