Find out gender or not

[Cupcakes1234]

I've only just gone 8 weeks pregnant but am already thinking about gender 🙈. This is my second baby. We didn't find out with the first and it was lovely not knowing but it also drove me a little crazy 😂. I always said I won't be finding out again this time and my partner doesn't want to know either. At the end of the day it really doesn't matter what it is but I kind of want to know. I'm pretty sure my partner will stick to his guns and remain team yellow but I don't know what to do lol. I'd like to know but I think I'd be happy either way but then disappointed in myself that I couldn't wait. Any thoughts. What are others doing/done?

I didn’t find out with my first and did with my second. Finding out the gender both times (first when he was born second at a gender scan) were equally as amazing! You have plenty of time to decide what to do but the only advice I would give is stay united - one of you finding out out and the other boy could cause a bit of tension.

Oooh how many posts til someone has a strop over gender vs sex...

Well find out with second to prepare the first for what he's getting. Also have tons of his clothes, so if next are girls I can filter through what's wearable and what to get rid of

Keep it a surprise!

I did both times for no other reason that I'm really impatient and nosey. I don't think it matters when you find out can't be more of a surprise after the birth than before.

We found out we were having a little girl. She was scanned every week from 30 weeks onwards due to complications. All ready for the arrival.

When she came out she had a willy.

So my vote is if you want to know do it on blood test not on a scan!!!

Sex not gender

Doesn't matter either way really, entirely up to you. I found out because I was really curious about my baby and immediately seized upon any information about them that medical professionals could offer! It is difficult to keep it a surprise for everyone else though if you have found out- I kept unintentionally using giveaway pronouns.

I'm going to try and keep myself from finding out if I have another.

I didn't find out the sex of my first and not finding out the sex of this one. Was more tempted to find out with this one but decided not to in the end

I found out with my first and flirted with the idea of having a surprise with my second but as soon as I got that bfp I was dying to know!!! We actually paid for a 16w gender scan this time (although would not recommend as ended up being told the opposite at 20w scan but that's another story...!)
I like knowing although equally I can see how a surprise would be fun too. I'd probably want to find out again if I ever had another but I'd definitely wait for the 20w scan next time.

Don't find out. There aren't many opportunities for a lovely long awaited surprise in adult life - this is one of them !

I paid for a gender scan at 16 weeks & I'm really glad I found out. It was a lovely surprise to find out were having a girl as I was convinced it was a boy. It's also made me feel more attached to my bump by knowing the sex, this is my first & I've not yet been able to tell if certain sensations are her movements. Finding out the sex just made it all more real (although my bump is huge!)

Sorry I meant sex and not gender and I apologise in advance if it causes any offence!

Thank you for everyone's input. I definitely couldn't find out with him not knowing as I'm I cannot keep a secret for anything so I'd end up telling him lol. I think I'll wait until birth as others have said, their scans have been wrong. It really doesn't matter either way, I just have no feeling about this one.

I've been umming and aahing. I didn't find out with my other two but DP found out with his. I liked the surprise at the end but feel more impatient this time and DP is not fussed either way. I've had the Harmony test and said yes to finding out so I will know by the time I am 13 weeks and now I've made that decision, I am excited!

I think we're going to find out. This is my first and I think it will all feel a bit more real if I can think about the baby as he or she, rather than it, iyswim.
Also, we are having a nightmare thinking of names, so if we find out it will halve the size of the problem.

I think a surprise is much better. I've not found out and it's making it more fun imo. Also didnt want everything to be pink or blue as not really one for gender specific clothes and toys. I love pandas so everything is panda related ( onesies, reusable nappies, nursery decorations etc)
Both my sister and best friend found out their babies sex and think I'm mad for not wanting to

I found out at my 20 week scan but we had gone for a routine scan the week before where we were pretty sure we saw the gender ourselves. Turns out we were right and found out it was a boy the week after!

I'm very impatient though and would have wanted to know anyway. It was lovely finding out at the scan and we got to celebrate together before the birth!

I found out with first because we wanted to be organised. If we have a second, I'll keep it a secret.

Very mixed. Thank you to everyone who has commented. I think I'm going to go with my partner and agree to wait 💛

It's a nice surprise on the day, that extra excitement to keep you going in labour 💛

We found out in advance, it was such a sweet and special moment the day we found out. I had the NIPT and they called DH with the results and then he called me to tell me we were having a girl. It was so lovely and I wouldn't change a thing.

I figured the birth will be special and wonderful anyway so may as well spread out the surprises and excitement!

We decided not to find out and I think it's been the best decision for us as it's made me equally excited for either sex and focused more on other things, like preparing for the labour, getting stuff ready, and avoiding any stereotypical gender stuff. I'm the only one of my friends/sisters though who has had a surprise, I don't judge either way, it's a very personable thing! For me the guessing and old wives tales have added to the fun, and as another poster says, makes it also more exciting on labour day!