Over doing it

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What do you class as over doing it?

I'm 32 weeks pregnant and clearly nesting has set in... literally all I can think about is how filthy our flat is and how I cannot bring a newborn baby into this without cleaning every nook and cranny.

The way I feel I wont be satisfied until it's all done however, I still have 4 weeks left at work until maternity leave and although my partner contributes financially to all the things we need for baby as well recently deciding to learn to drive in order to make our lives easier, cleanliness is just not on his radar. He will tidy at a push but cleaning is just plain alien to him.

Normally this is not an issue for me. I like things done my way and any attempt he does make I end up redoing to my standard.

Being this far gone in my pregnancy though I'm struggling to achieve my own set cleanliness goals by myself. Its causing a lot of friction and I'm trying to settle myself. I'm just feeling more and more frustrated and nervous that baby is getting closer to arrival and I'm no closer to the super clean flat I'm imagining bringing baby home to.

Anyone else experienced this and have any advice? TIA x

This sounds way too much OP. You need to speak to your midwife if all you can think about is cleaning. You also need to get your partner to pull his weight as you won’t be able to do it all after the baby arrives.

Now is the perfect opportunity for your partner to learn how to clean properly.

I can be like this with cleaning too I think it's natural to want everything perfect to bring your baby home to. I'd recommend booking in a cleaning company to do a deep clean the week before your due date then you can just do little top up cleans each day until the baby comes. Good luck!

Im 31 weeks and right now my house is a mess with lots of unbuilt ikea furniture and junk that still needs sorted after we moved into the house over a year ago. Im not having a huge urge to clean everything but I would like to get the place organised!

I think it was with dc4 where I got up at 3am & cleaned the shower screen because obviously a newborn would care about such things .

Your dp should be helping but I’ve found with nesting you might still want to do it yourself. If it’s something you really want to do could you look at ‘The Organised Mum Method (TOMM)”, adapt it to your needs then split it between yourself & your dp? That way you should feel like your being productive but without knackering yourself in the process.

At 39 weeks my DH came home and found me stood on the kitchen work tops cleaning the tops of cupboards.

Nesting is normal, but just do a bit each day. Write a list!