I cannot contain my 'fuller bust'

[PoppingOneOutIn2020]

Agh.

For context, I absolutely hate the size of my boobs. I'm 5ft, size 10/12 and am a 34G, in sure I'm meant to be wearing a 32 band but I hate that tight feeling no matter how supportive!

Now since being pregnant they've become put of control. Its obscene.
I got a lot of looks and remarks when I was younger as I was in E's when I was 15. It carried on for a few years as I was so small with such big boobs.
Now people are used to it.. not it's all started again in the last few weeks!

"Jesus christ look at your boobs"
"Put them away!" (Its 100000C and I can't even wear a vest without looking like I belong on pornhub apparently)

"Oh my good look at them"

"They'll only get bigger"

"Oh God they will be to your knees when you've finished breastfeeding"

I'm only 23 and my confidence is shattered by them.. and the remarks already.
I'm too embarrassed to go out and try and find a bra that comfortable and fits.

Has anyone got any, any at all advice on where I can get a comfy bra that does fuller bust would prefer online but if I really have to I'll venture out to get measured :(

My sympathies, I’m a similar size and have always been self conscious, they’ve expanded in pregnancy and I’m getting the same comments. Wish people would shut up!!
You can order online from bravissimo, I like the Freya jasmine bra. It doesn’t minimise but does fit well.

@SRK16
Thank you, I will take a look on their site!

I'm so picky with bras recently, I hate padding now. And wires annoy me but ice never found a supportive non white bra for the bigger boobed ladies!

I’m having a similar problem, I’m 32H now - gone up 5 cup sizes since I got pregnant! I’ve got these now www.figleaves.com/uk/figleaves-flexi-wire-moulded-nursing-bra-c-h-cup/FIG-010304.html?dwvar_FIG-010304_color=750033&cgid= comfortable and much more flattering than non wired ones which make my boobs look terrible

Who are these complete bell-ends making these comments to you!? I think you need to roundly tell them to fuck off!!

My boobs are the same size as yours, grew HUGELY in pregnancy, nursed 2 DCs for 3.5 years in total and I'm now a 34F but smaller when I lose weight. They are NOT down to my knees.

I relied on www.nursingbra-shop.co.uk and ordered multiple sizes and styles each time because depending on the style my size was different and you change size all the time anyway. My favourites were Hot Milk and Anita bras with underwire (loved them, the wire didn't dig in or cause me any problems).

Oh and I topped out at a 34K having started at 34E. Now 6 years on I generally wear a 32G or 34F.

Who the hell is making those kinda comments about your breasts? Wtf, that’s the issue here, not the fact your breasts have very normally grown a bit. Seriously who do you socialise with who thinks it’s okay to say that kind of thing unsolicited? You need to find a comeback so they stop doing it! No wonder you’re feeling self conscious!

I was the same in my second pregancy, Bravissimo were so kind and found me increasingly large bras. It was worse when breastfeeding!

I can't offer any advice but I once overheard a pregnant woman bra shopping, asked her Mum to look for H cup for hellish. She really did look fed up but her Mum couldn't stop giggling.

I can’t offer any advice really, but simply I know how you feel! I am expecting dc4 and pre pregnancy this time I was already 32kk 🤦🏼‍♀️ 4’11” and roughly size 10/12 too! My boobs have never got smaller no matter how much weight I’ve lost 😕 my back size fluctuates from 28-32 but cup size only ever gets bigger! Such a curse!
I managed to find some ‘comfort’ style nursing bras which I’ve got in a medium, not a great for but comfortable and I’m currently beyond caring I have a mono boob and lumps and bumps everywhere! I simply cannot afford to be spending £40+ on each bra! And from what I can tell the reviews on the only few they make in my size is that they are horrendous! I will stick with my comfort bras and Debenhams also had a bra in 36G which wasn’t too bad and I find that one gives me much better shape and support! I too think I should still be wearing a 32 back (I can still fit in the back size of my underwire bras) but am sticking with comfort nowadays! My 1 saving grace is my bump is now bigger than my boobs so no one really notices them thanks god!
I really feel for you though! If you can afford it I would recommend trying bravissimo or there’s a range called curvy Kate which I buy from amazon (much cheaper) but haven’t tried their maternity or nursing styles! Good luck x

Thank you everyone.

The people making the remarks are.. everyone, from family, friends and people I just meet.

I suppose I should say something as ot bothers me, but I've just been laughing it off with them as I'm sure they mean no harm.

Thanks for the suggestions and advice, currently trailing though the suggested websites looking for something that looks a bit like what I'd find on my grandmas washing line.

Is pretty fabric and lace just too expensive to make nice, big bras?!

Bravissimo will be able to help you, it's the only place I can get a decent bra. They also do clothes, might not be much use now (although I wore a good couple of their dresses until I was 25+ weeks).

I second telling people to shut up! What do people expect you to do about it exactly?! Honestly I really wonder what goes through the minds of some people!

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Fix them with a hard stare and "did you mean to be so rude?"

"I'd never be so rude as to make personal comments about your body." Don't laugh, however uncomfortable it makes the..

FFS, your boobs are not public property and some people really need to get some boundaries.

This is quite pretty (I have the nursing version)

www.bravissimo.com/products/sophie-non-wired-bra-black-pnm1bl/

I like this too!

www.bravissimo.com/products/zara-bralette-black-ln605blk/

Oh my dear you have my sympathies. I have no solutions but it's bloody awful. I'm now post menopausal and they have become even more matronly if that's possible. I am seriously considering a reduction (not really, can't afford it) because they are the bane of my life.

Mine shrunk dramatically after breastfeeding, and stayed smaller for a long time as long as I remained slim. So there is light ahead!

I did go to the GP when I was 19 and asked what my chances were of having a reduction on the NHS.

I got my answer through the post about 2 weeks later with a kindly worded big fat no.

DP and I have spoken about taking out a loan to have a reduction once I've breastfed. DP would like 2 children. I'm happy with one but obviously I want to be sure before the operation as it can mean I can never breastfeed which would be my preferred option. So I'm a few years away yet but it just cant come sooner.

I think you need to stop laughing this off and start standing up for yourself. I can never think of what to say in these situations but as these comments seem to be happening frequently, think of how you want to handle it and practice in the mirror a few times so it doesn't sound awkward in your head. Then it will be easier to deliver the line in the moment.

"can you not comment on my breasts please, it's really unpleasant, I'm not fair game just because I'm pregnant".

"Oh are we being rude about people's bodies now because you've really started to let yourself go"

"That was hilarious, are you planning to comment on the size of my bump and my arse as well?"

"Well now I feel like shit, thanks mate"

Also best to stand up for yourself now to family and friends or once the baby comes it will be comments about you not snapping back into shape or being too clingy or your baby too being too big/small/thin/fat/too much hair/not enough hair or whatever garbage comes into people's heads. People need to be told that this stuff isn't "banter", it's seriously rude.

I've struggled to find bras for a long time. Bravissimo is great but not cheap. I've often found that once I've got an idea of size then brastop is a great website - usual brands like freya etc but don't cost as much and there's a 'bargain basement.' I'd be interested to see how you get on as I'm desperate to find something comfy!

Try www.booborbust.co.uk (I think) to measure yourself.

@PoppingOneOutIn2020 had the same discussion with my DH! Hoping for a reduction when we finish our family/save up a bit.

I think people feel they can comment on big boobs because in theory it’s a good thing? I noticed most comments I get are from friends who are much smaller and want to be a bit bigger (though I know there’s no way they’d want to be my size). I think they feel they’re being complimentary sometimes and don’t realise it can make someone feel self conscious? 🤷‍♀️

If you haven't already, measure yourself on boob or bust, as 34 sounds far too big if you're a size 10/12 (I'm a 10 and should wear 28 but find 30 more comfortable). Then check out brastop for cheaper big bras, curvy kate ones are pretty. No need for you to have ugly bras!