When to tell the parents?

[nicannie]

My question is simple... when did everyone tell their parents and in-laws about their pregnancy?

I'm 8 weeks with my first, this will be my in-laws first grandchild and I know they have been waiting patiently for this day to come. They are in their 60s and will be very excited. My parents have 2 grandchildren from my sister, they will be excited as I'm the baby of the family I was wondering when everyone else told their parents just being nosey!

I'm currently pregnant with number 4. In all cases we told my parents after 24 weeks i.e. the minimum viability cut off. I'm not saying this is what everyone should do, but it worked for us so don't feel bad if you don't feel ready to tell people immediately.

I've had recurrent miscarriages and this is likely the reason that we try to keep the news to ourselves for a longer period than usual.

This is a curious thread.. first bambino, I told my parents at 6 weeks & in-laws at 8 weeks. My parents because we live nearby and I was a bit of a wreck with morning sickness & inlaws a bit later as it’s the first time we saw them in person.

This time around, I can’t decide. We found out on Wednesday & are currently on holiday with the in-laws. They live 5 hours away & we probs won’t see them again until late August.. but I’ll inevitably want to tell my mum for some help with toddler care if I’m mega sick again! And I feel a bit guilty telling my parents but not the in-laws!

My daughter told me the day her period was late 😂 she hadn’t even done a test. My other daughter was 6 weeks. Both told me I had to keep it a secret. It was so hard because I was so pleased.

Definitely get back on the phone to the GP and explain fully re 12 week scan. I'd also be ringing the hospital maternity unit direct to ask what they would want you to do. An early scan would be better than a late one.

We told our parents practically the minute the test showed up positive! First grandchild for my parents and his so we were all really excited.

We planned to wait a bit longer with this pregnancy but only managed an hour 😂
Am now 38+1 and feels like I've been pregnant forever.

Told my dad straight away at about 4 weeks. Told OH parents about 16 weeks (didn’t want to tell them at all tbh. Don’t get on and utterly dreading when baby is born and how his mum fusses)

We told my mum & stepdad at 20 weeks as they were going on holiday for 4 weeks then we told my dad & his partner and my boyfriend's parents on Fathers Day at 23 weeks, was trying to get to 24 week viability point but Father's Day was just such a perfect time to do it & bump popped out that week so was getting impossible to hide!

We waited til after the first scan with DC1. It was really hard to wait but I’m glad we did. We gave parents a “countdown til we’re grandparents” plaque as a little gift and it was a lovely moment each time.

With DC2 we told in laws at about 8wks as we just couldn’t keep it in. But we’re close to them and would say if anything goes wrong. We just needed to share the news and felt relieved after. I’m waiting to tell my side til after the scan. I have a big brother top for DC1 to wear so am thinking of taking him over wearing that and seeing how long it takes them to click