Just become single

[kkl1]

So just a place to put my shit really I have 2 little girls 8 and 6 and 19weeks pregnant and just split up with the baby's dads just don't no what todo with my self he is very aggressive when he drinks and he drinks all the time so I Carnt take no more of it just feeling a little lost

Oh my god I feel exactly the same. I've no kids but I'm pregnant and we're still together but he drinks almost every single day then gets nasty!

I’m newly single also at 13 weeks. I know it might feel raw now but from what you said it sounds like you are definitely better off on your own for the sake of you and your children. My 2 children had a mentally and emotionally abusive father and the best thing I did was find courage to leave. It took me 7 years mind! Hope you’re as ok as you can be hun xx

Thank you guys I just don't no how I feel I just keep crying but I don't even no what I'm crying for I Carnt be with some one who has to be this way and he drinks a lot like tonight he kicked off with a friend of ours I stuck up for him and he still went mad at me ended up heat butting me so I just don't think I can do this no more unless all drink drugs everything has stopped but he won't do this and it's just not fair no more on any one hope ur both okay xx

Why have you stayed so long?! You have to put the safety of yourself, your baby and your poor children first here...you kick him out, tell him to get help and tell his family to straighten him out to make sure he’s ready to parent when you have his third!

Good luck xx

If he is a violent drug user you need to get yourself, your girls and your unborn baby away from him. Are your daughters at risk of physical harm from him?

@devilishlygood I cannot tell you how hard it is to leave a person like this. It’s so easy for someone to say why didn’t you leave sooner etc but when you are in that situation it’s not so easy. As I said I tried for 7years. The main thing is that @kkl1 has made the first step and just needs to keep up the strength to stick by her decision. It won’t be easy. If anything like my ex he threatened to kill him self frequently to the point I offered to buy him the rope. He attacked the guy I started dating a YEAR after I left. He moved across the road from me an stalked my every movement. So even after I finally left him it was still a living nightmare. Sorry to go on but comments like why have you stayed so long just annoy me guys! @kkl1 do you have good family and friends around you that can help and support you? Xx

There’s children involved. It’s not about one person anymore!

Thank you
Yer I have a lot of friends and family here to help me even his family is helping and it hasn't been like this for a long time it's a new thing that has started I didn't just leave things this long it's just started the past few months I get that I have to look after my children first and put them before everything eles that is why I have chucked him out now

@kkl1thats good news. It’s good to have the support around you xx

@kkl1 have you contacted the police about him head butting you?

Thank you all for ur messages it really means a lot I'm just kinda lost right now his abloving careing person but asoon as he drinks his some one I don't no any more so I'm just taking some time with me an my children for a while

Do not go back to him.
But you will.

Not helpful Wildor

@kkl1 please report the assault. Drink is NO excuse to treat you badly if he genuinely loved and cared for you he wouldn't lay a finger on you or make you feel like he does. He's a domestic violence perpetrator be safe for you and your babies