My 7 year old said they would hurt their unborn sister!!!

[ZoeN1]

Ever since I have told my 7 year old about having a sister she has been so excited she has just stopped sleeping, it’s been 3 months now with sleep finally happening at 10pm to wake up at 5am (before this she was sleeping 7.30pm-7am). She came in my bedroom early this morning and I told her she needed to go back to bed until 7am as she was tired. She said we will get up now or I will hurt baby!!! I was gob smacked as she has never shown violent/ manipulative behaviour before and can’t wait to be a big sister! I told her that I had not brought her up to say horrible things like that and she could leave my room. She walked out hysterically crying so I left her to come back in my room (took about 20 mins) she wouldn’t apologise for ages but then started crying hysterically again and said sorry she loves baby and can’t wait to be a big sister and of course she would never hurt baby. I gave her a talk about not saying things we don’t mean etc etc. Has anyone else experienced similar behaviour?

Poor thing I wonder if she's heard something or having stressful thoughts? Maybe sit her down and talk openly about how she is.feeling and remind her you will still love her and be there for her as I think it can be a confusing time for young children.

I would not mention it again. She realises she went too far. Give her a big hug. She was trying to get you to do what she wanted and it didnt work. I dont think you need to give it more thought x

My then 8 year old wishes my unborn baby dead (told brownie leaders in a sharing session) she was always loving to her I think it was just her expressing her worries in a dramatic attention grabbing way 🤷🏽‍♀️

I know it’s a hard exhausting guilt trip being pregnant again and the baby isn’t even born yet 😩 we had a chat about it this morning xx

I’ve not mentioned it since, I think (hope) she was just trying to use it to get her own way and quickly realised it wasn’t going to work! It’s so scary/upsetting to hear your child say something like that I’ve spent the day questioning my parenting 😢

My younger brother was born when I was 5. My parents told me he was on the way and I wouldn't believe them, though wasn't upset. It wasn't until months later that I asked them when I had to leave... I thought I was being replaced! Maybe she has worries that she doesn't know how to talk about? She'll be excited because everyone is showing her that it's an exciting time, but maybe if she hasn't been an older sibling before, she's getting the wrong end of the stick about something?

Oh no it’s hard enough them saying things like that to you as a mum never mind the brownie leader 🤦‍♀️

I must ask her about it sometime see if she remembers