How can I stop being paranoid ?

[HelloOverHere]

Hi ladies

Thank goodness for this forum!

So I have a MC last October 2018 at 8 weeks I'm now coming up to 5 weeks pregnant and got my scan when I turn 13 weeks.

I'm so paranoid that I might loose this one although I have a very good feeling about it.

I had a blighted ovum which means an empty sac which had detached. Apparently not happens once.

I'm scared to loose this one how do I stop paranoia kicking in when I should be enjoying this!

@HelloOverHere- it’s completely natural to feel how you do after suffering a loss.

Don’t put pressure on yourself to enjoy it, I also want to enjoy my pregnancy but I’m not because im so so scared something will go wrong.

Hopefully as time goes on we’ll be able to relax more and enjoy it. But how you’re feeling at the moment is completely normal 💜

@Kate3150 thank you huni
How are are you? Is it your first?
I want to feel excited and I guess you can't control nature.
I'm sure everything will be fine for of us it's just comforting to know someone is feeling the same x

@HelloOverHere- It’s not nice feeling this way I completely get it, but the more you fight it the worse you will be. I’ve made peace with my negativity and if it takes until that baby is in my arms fo feel relaxed and happy then so be it!!!

There will be some happy moments along the way I’m sure 😊

Yes it’s my first... I was ok at the beginning but the further along I get the more desperate I am to hold on to little Bubs.

Always here to talk if you need xx

Are you able to get an early scan? I was really anxious and 12/13 weeks is such a long time to wait! So I had an early scan (private) booked for 7/8 weeks if I recall, by then the heart is formed and a heartbeat can usually be detected. The technician told me that once the heartbeat is detected the risk really decreases. I found it massively reassuring. I did manage to find plenty of other things to stress over for the following months, but it really helped that first long wait xxx

@Wingingit9212 I am debating if I should have an early scan or not. I had an early scan last time cause I was experiencing some bleeding. That's when I found out there was no baby so a little anxious to go so early and see nothing again.

Still debating on it though ....

12/13 is a long wait I know lol I think once I meet a midwife before the main scan I will ask her all these questions and maybe then will I decide to go for an early scan xxx

@Kate3150 thank you so much huni.
I'm 5 weeks tomorrow and now I feel less bloated... did you go through that too?

Yes, totally understand that. It's such a painful situation to be in. I'm sure your little bean is just fine though :) I had a MC a few years ago, lost a twin a few months later, but have just got downstairs from putting my little boy to bed, there is always hope. Wishing you all the best 💐💐

Totally feel your pain it’s a crazy rollercoaster
I would recommend the early scan if you can it defo set my mind at ease about 7 weeks you can hear/see a heartbeat and it’s defo worth every penny.
Try not to torture yourself with worrying keep busy and you mind on something else
Good luck xx

I had a blighted ovum back in 2013 (my second pregnancy, First was textbook and daughter is now 7 1/2), not discovered until I went for my 12 week scan. It’s taken us a few years of trying, but I am now 24 weeks pregnant. I had a private early scan at around 8 weeks, I just needed to know if there was something there, and that helped a lot. It also helped to keep reminding myself that this was a new egg, and new sperm. The chances of another blighted ovum were pretty low. Just take one week, or even day, at a time, and soon they start flying by. Good luck to you.

Hello. Bless you I'm sorry for your worry and your recent loss.
I have just found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant. I lost a baby at 8 weeks last June and lost another at 6 weeks in November.
I'm constantly worried.
I have just had two days off of work because I couldn't cope with the anxiety.
Just know your not alone and I'm sure everyone in our situation are feeling the same.
It's bloomin stressful!!!
Iv just started having mild cramps today so now I'm extra worried because I know what that normally means for me !
all the best and look after yourself ! Take a break and don't be afraid to say no I'm not doing this today! Go with what you want and feel

Xxx

@Phoebe88 congratulations on your new pregnancy! It is so goddamn stressful it's hard to relax lol
I had cramps for a whole week and tbh I didn't haven't then as much in my last pregnancy and feeling more achy which comforts me.
But i get paranoid is when I feel I'm getting a little wet down there (too much info) from discharge cause that was a sign for me that wasn't good. But then I hear women having Discharge all the time.
I'm sure your little bean is growing and clinging onto you x x

@WhiteVixen thank you ! It's so worrying isn't it!i just want to get the 8 weeks milestone and probably I will go for an early scan. Like you said just to know something is there xx

It's very normal to feel worried, so don't beat yourself up. I had an anembryonic pregnancy (blighted ovum) in Feb 18, and I am now 17 weeks pregnant. I had 2 early scans - one at 6 weeks (private) and one at 8.5 weeks (NHS through pregnancy support as I have had 2 other miscarriages in the past). The scans definitely helped as I knew this time there was something there but they were nerve racking.

However, my anxiety is still as bad an ever at 17 weeks and every day is a challenge for me. I really wanted to enjoy this pregnancy (I have a son who is 5 and my pregnancy with him was similar due to having 2 miscarriages before him).

My advice is talk about your worries with your partner and midwife, and if you can, then go for as many scans as you need to make you feel less anxious - they are well worth the money for the reassurance!

@HelloOverHere- sorry I didn’t reply yesterday.. I had insane bloating very early on then had nothing. Literally no symptoms, I have been very lucky.
How have you been today??
I’ve been a bit down today but keep picking myself back up . X

Hey lovely. Just want to say. If the fact that you don't have symptoms makes you nervous. Let me just say.
I have read so many ladies on here saying they had no symptoms and they had a very healthy pregnancy and baby at the end of it! And iv also read ladies who had very bad sickness, tired and all the rest of it and they miscarried. So don't think for one minute that because you don't have any symptoms it is a bad sign. We just do not know what is going to happen 🥺
I should read my own advice though because I'm the biggest worry guts going !!! X

@Kate3150 Hiya! Thanks for your response :)
Today ... not as bloated and Not as tired.
Although I don't feel bloated I definitively have a pouch. I work out 5 times a week and was on a shredding program so now my stomach isn't as toned this early on!
How are you feeling?
I actually love the symptoms as I feel there's something there... but today nothing :(

@HelloOverHere- honestly I’ve had no symptoms and those I’ve had have been mild. To be honest I still don’t feel pregnant and I’m nearly 17 weeks. So please please don’t feel disheartened... I know it’s hard as you’ve probably read lack of symptoms are a bad sign but that’s simply not the case for everyone.
I’m a bit blluuueegghh today lol if that makes any sense??? I’ve just eaten 2 muffins so feeling disgusted with myself..... I have washed it down with a herbal tea so don’t feel too bad lol. Bit bored aswell as hubby working... thank goodness for crappy tv 😂 xx