So anxious all the time - handhold please

[Vicsleighbob]

DH and I were ttc for over a year. In that time I had two early mc at 5 weeks and fertility testing showed low amh of 4.3. We were advised to have IVF back in February and were thinking it through.

Following a holiday in May I got a surprise BFP. The month that I'd eaten all the wrong things, took medication, had alcohol and didn't use OPK's!

Of course we are delighted but I just can't relax thinking that something is going to happen and I'm going to lose this baby too. I'm 37 so not exactly a spring chicken.

I'm currently 8+1 weeks pg. I feel sick 24/7, my boobs are huge and sore, my stomach is so bloated I look 6 months pg and all I want to do is cry all the time. I'm scared that it's all just going to end like the others did. I did have a reassurance scan at 6+4 which showed a heartbeat but that only reassured me for a few days. I'm not getting more anxious with each passing day.

I'm suppose I'm just looking for a handhold and some positive outcomes please. My DH just doesn't get it 😞 Tia

@Vicsleighbob- bless your heart 💓, sending big hugs.

I suffer from anxiety anyway so pregnancy has been tough for me. I had an horrendous year last year, a MC followed by a diagnosis of severe endometriosis then major major surgery.

I’m currently 16+ 2 and i have to say i find each day a struggle. I mean I get on with things but I don’t do it with a spring in my step. It’s always at the back of my mind something could go wrong. I’d love to relax and enjoy the pregnancy but I’m just not able to do that.

Anxiety in pregnancy is SUPER SUPER common, especially if you’ve suffered a loss in the past. Having a bad first experience in my experience robs any joy in subsequent pregnancies.

You’re not alone, always happy to chat on here if you need ❤️

I'm currently pregnant following a loss last year, the first few weeks I was so anxious - constantly looking for mc 'symptoms' and knicker checking!
I had an early scan at 8 weeks which did make me feel better, I then had a private scan at 11weeks and nhs scan at 13weeks. It was perhaps OTT but it took some of the anxiety away so was worth it for me.
I'm now 26weeks and still can't believe it - good luck, it sounds like your pregnancy hormones are very strong this time! Have an early scan perhaps xx

Hand hold here for you. I could have written your post word for word. 37, found out on holiday in May that I’m pregnant after 2 miscarriages.

The anxiety is always here! I had a scare a few weeks ago with this one, and saw a heartbeat which we weren’t expecting but since then I just worry. I’ve got private nipt with a scan next week so hopefully all going well and I can stop worrying for a few days. No advice but you aren’t on your own x

Hello honey! Sorry for your anxiety! I have had two miscarriages in the last year and now I'm on baby number 3 at 4 wks.
Just started having mild cramps in my lower abdomen and now I'm extra worried. As if I was horrified enough!
With my first pregnancy I had terrible depression. Just one day all of a sudden my mood was very low and I was very upset all the time. This is hormone imbalance and my midwife told me it's very common and don't be afraid to tell your doctor about this because they can prescribe medication to help if it gets unbearable for you.
just know your not alone in your worries. I bet there are thousands of us right now worried sick. I hope we both have a happy ending to this xxx

And wishing other ladies happy endings xxx

Thank you lovely ladies for taking the time to reply. I'm sorry so many of you are in exactly the same position. It's really nice to hear from you all and I wish you all happy, healthy pregnancies too. I'll probably struggle with the anxiety all the way through if I'm honest. I'm just taking things a day at a time at the minute. I wish I could relax or be excited even, but I just can't let myself go there. I'm keeping everything crossed for us all

Sorry you feel like this, I felt the same and every day of my pregnancy was a struggle as a result. It was all fine and dandy in the end but it never felt like it would be when i was pregnant. The truth is that I couldn't really do anything but take each day as it comes and get through it. I'm sorry you have this huge stretch in front of you - your post could have been written by me a few months ago. The only thing I can think to recommend are meditation apps. There are pregnancy-orientated mediations that really can help you to manage the anxiety, at least while you are listening. I relied on these a lot. Also, looking at actual statistics helped me to rationalise my fears too. Good luck

Congratulations op, you have already passed the stage at which you lost your babies previously so that's one milestone under the belt! And you have seen a healthy heartbeat which is another great sign (the miscarriage risk drops to 22% after seeing a heartbeat at 6 weeks, and drops lower every week). So the chances are a lot higher that everything will be OK than not! I found the anxiety dropped off a lot now I can feel movements so realistically in about 10 weeks you will have that for reassurance too. Hope the time passes quickly for you x

@Vicsleighbob- How you doing? X

@Kate3150

So sorry I missed your last reply. I'm very happy to say I'm now 13+ weeks pregnant and recently had our dating scan that showed all is well 😁

Hoping all you other lovely ladies are doing well too!

Hi really sorry to comment here if inappropriate but I haven’t worked out how to use this site quite yet and didn’t know how to start my own post. Last Thursday 01/08 I had my faint positive test, I continued testing for a few days and began to panic as lines were not getting any darker (using Morrison’s tests each time). I convinced myself I am having a chemical pregnancy. Then I bought some cheap strip tests from eBay and used 2 with my FMU Tuesday morning, negative not the slightest line so I come to terms with it being over. Then this morning (Thursday 1 week from first positive test) I done another cheap eBay test with fmu and although faint there was a obvious positive. Now I am really confused I gave up on the idea but now I think there could be the slightest bit of hope, my period was due 03/08 so 5 days ago

If I were you warrior I would use a digital test as they need higher levels of HCG to get a positive.. good luck