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Confused, stress, upset and also pregnant

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Emma1992x · 01/07/2019 12:13

Hi all

I found out i was pregnant on friday and I think the father is my ex boyfriend (which is fine) however i wanted to clarity as i did sleep with someone else also.

Just so we can get the dates correct, I slept with the other person on the 11th May and he did not ejaculate during sex.

I then was bleeding on the 28th May, which seemed to be my period as it was around the usual time and was as heavy as usual.

after my period the only person i slept with was my ex partner and this was every weekend and mid week too, on friday i realised my period was late so took a test which confirmed on clear blue digital as 3+ weeks.

Due to my bleed i feel the father has to be my ex boyfriend due to the amount of unprotected sex we had and the fact the other person was a while ago and i had a period since then.

I need to put my mind at rest with this one as i feel really stressed about it, people have told me im being silly but i just wanted to be surer than not that it was my ex's

any help is greatly appreciated.

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Abi58 · 01/07/2019 12:32

3+ means 3 weeks after conception which would be 5 weeks since your last period (at least) as it's plus it could be longer. Your period could have been implantation and you were already pregnant? As 5 weeks before Friday is 24th May or before as your last period.

Best thing to do would be to explain this to a go and see if they can do a scan to date he pregnancy (or pay for a private one there are loads around)

Abi58 · 01/07/2019 12:32

🤞🏻 it all works out for you

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Emma1992x · 01/07/2019 12:44

I think I'm going to try get a scan booked in but I'm just trying to figure out the likelihood of it being the other persons and not my ex boyfriends, he did not ejaculate while my ex partner did on numerous occasions and my period did not look or feel like spotting it seemed to be normal.

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Abi58 · 01/07/2019 12:59

It can seem normal and people don't realise they're pregnant.
There can be some released before he finishes that why pulling out isn't reliable as contraception.
The scan is your best bet. Dr might do it as you are unsure when you conceived.

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Emma1992x · 01/07/2019 14:05

Yes but the other guy did not finish at all, and after researching it, it seems pulling out is the same chances of pregnancy as using a condom...

I guess I just need some reassurance. I've heard spotting is not normally like a period which is making me think it was definitely a period. I don't get an appointment for another 5 or 6 weeks so I don't know what to do

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justchecking1 · 01/07/2019 14:09

No one on here will be able to tell you. You need a dating scan which may, or may not shed any light on this depending on the result.

I can categorically tell you that the fact your partner pulled out in no way rules him out as the father

NoBaggyPants · 01/07/2019 14:10

it seems pulling out is the same chances of pregnancy as using a condom...

This is nonsense. Who has told you this?

You can book a scan privately if you're unsure of your dates.

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Emma1992x · 01/07/2019 14:21

I understand that but I just wanted other peoples thoughts on the matter, I'm not sure how soon I can have a dating scan..

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Abi58 · 01/07/2019 16:32

Mothercare / window to the womb and others offer it for a charge or get an app with your dr and see if they will do one.

I agree with the others that pulling out whether they finish or not does not matter I think it's called pre ejaculation and I don't think they even know themselves. It's just with it saying 3+ weeks your last period would have been 5 plus weeks ago. If you didn't test after that 'period' you can't rule out that it might not have been a period. Many bleed and are pregnant (some lighter some same as period). Only a scan will confirm and the options I am aware of are above. Websites for those or a call should tell you how soon they can do one.

blankcheque · 01/07/2019 16:40

I think it's extremely unlikely it's the other guys like 0.0001 % , if you had your period and it seemed as usual.

If you want to do an early scan I had one ( vaginal) at window to the womb, and it was around £80. I thought I was 7 weeks on the day of the scan and they didn't adjust it. However my 12 week NHS scan changed my due date by a week ( put me a week further along.)

Have you told your ex ? Have you just broken up as you were having sex very regularly?

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Emma1992x · 01/07/2019 16:58

My ex is aware but he is not concerned due to me having a period around 5 weeks ago, and it was heavy and normal - enough for me to use tampons, I wouldn't normally unless needed. I feel as though an early scan may put me at ease, although me and my ex are back together now we did have sex a few days after me and the other guy, but of course this time he did ejaculate.

I'm just stressing myself out a lot and it's not healthy :(

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blankcheque · 01/07/2019 17:42

Being pregnant can make you feel really anxious and irrational. Window to the womb scan from 6 weeks. You count from the first day of your last period. I'd recommend 7 weeks onwards, as there's more likelyhood of seeing a heartbeat by then.

Good luck x

Cosmogirl86 · 01/07/2019 18:43

Chances of pregnancy from pre ejaculate are actually really low, and lower still if he urinated after his last ejaculation...

I think it's probably your partners but I wish you luck

Justus22 · 01/07/2019 20:01

I've just read your post and you found out on Friday (which was the 28th June) you are 3+ weeks pregnant? Its definitely your exs then, if you've had your last period 28th May that is 5 weeks ago so it checks out? X

Justus22 · 01/07/2019 20:08

@abi58 she had sex with the other man on 11th May, she'd be around 10 weeks pregnant if it was his?! It checks out with her last monthly period being the 28th May (that's 4 weeks 5 days prior to getting a 3+ weeks test.) x

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Emma1992x · 01/07/2019 20:11

I have booked in for a scan next week when I should be six weeks so hopefully it clears it up for me!

I have read that pre ejaculate doesn’t hold much sperm if any and I did bleed over two weeks later so I’m more sure than not that it’s not his

I need to stop getting so worked up

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Emma1992x · 01/07/2019 20:14

I did the clear blue test that came up positive yesterday so technically it is just over 3 weeks from possible conception whilst I was ovulating... so it’s in my ex’s favour..

Thanks for helping guys I’ve been sat crying since I got home from work! Clear blue digital is awful!

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Justus22 · 01/07/2019 20:24

@emma1992 I highly doubt its not your partners from the dates and info you've given. If so you'll know straight away when they scan you are there's is a month difference in conception dates and scans are not that out. Try to relax. At least your partner knows and is OK with everything, but I really don't think you have anything to worry about. Ps my experience of implantation bleed is that it is nothing like a period, its very light. X

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