Anyone else feeling neglected in pregnancy?

[Mondayblues7]

So I'm 32 weeks tomorrow . First baby. My DH hasn't ever been overly cuddly or affectionate. Up until about 28 weeks we were still having relations shall we say. But since then nothing.

I have tried to initiate and nothing. He has quite a high sex drive and I am worried that he finds me replusive and it hurts my feelings that he doesn't want to be physical with me . I have needs too! I want to feel wanted.

I am hyper sensitive at the moment and if he makes a comment about any other woman (on TV or something) I fly off the handle.

I did my make up all nice today and really made an effort. I got a peck on the lips and was told "we can't be doing stuff like that when you are so pregnant"

I am at a loss as to what to do. I guess I just wanted a rant and a moan. 😭😭

I wouldn't worry about it. My man is the same. He finds it so weird when we have sex knowing his wee baby is in there. April was the last time we did anything and I actually agree with how he feels. I've been suffering with terrible pelvic girdle pain so it's the last thing I'm interested in anyway.

Best thing to do is tell him how you feel but if he isn't feeling that into sex then you need to respect that. Don't worry about it though. You're not the only woman who has felt that way. X

Some men genuinely feel weird about having sex in pregnancy, especially the later stages. It's not a reflection on how he feels about you

My DH wasn't that affectionate with me either - didn't touch the bump or anything and it made me really self conscious and paranoid - I think he felt it was really weird what was happening to my body rather than not finding me attractive anymore

Agree with PP's - the way he's being is pretty normal, but there are ways of being intimate without having sex if he feels strange about it.

Sounds pretty normal OP, though I understand how it can hurt your feelings. It must be sort of strange for the man in the situation to have a big bump where there isn't usually one! And knowing your baby is in there.. I dunno if the tables were turned I'd find it a bit off putting. I doubt that he's finding you unattractive at all, but if I'm honest I don't think I would find a baby bump 'sexy' if you see what I mean.

DP and I had less sex when I was pregnant with DC1 and I'm pretty sure it's cos he just found it a bit weird. We probably only did it 5/6 times during my pregnancy, though I wasn't feeling up to it either. He was still loving towards me though, cuddling and kissing and rubbing my bump etc, does your DH do that still?

Have you told him how you feel? Try not to blame/point fingers at him as then you'll be putting him on the defensive. He probably has no idea how you feel! Sorry that you're feeling down about it all though, rest assured it's all really normal but don't suffer in silence.

Hey guys.

Thank you so much for your replies. We spoke about it and he has assured me he doesn't love me any less, it's just something he isn't comfortable with. I asked if we could be more affectionate rather than intimate as to be honest that's all I'm really after and he has been much better.

Thanks again ladies. You really have helped to put my mind at ease.