No heartbeat

[nespressowoo]

I've been told this morning there's no heartbeat. I should be 9 weeks but from the last scan two weeks ago, where a heartbeat was seen, my baby's heart has stopped. I'm just waiting to speak to them on how to pass it.

They've said I can wait and let nature take its course which could take a couple of weeks.

Pessaries which would help me pass it.

A D&C under general or similar awake.

I don't know which to choose. My heart is broken. My second MC.

I am so sorry for your loss xx

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I've been there and there are no words. Be kind to yourself xxxx

I’m so sorry this has happened.

It has happened to me at around 9 weeks twice. I couldn’t bear to drag things out so ended up having the surgery under general both times. It was the right decision for me, but obviously it’s very individual. Take care of yourself.

I’m so sorry. I had two mc last year both at 7 weeks. One was natural and the other I had a pessary. Lots of rest, painkillers, time and TLC.

Please also don’t lose hope. I’m currently 32 weeks pregnant.

Thank you, everyone x

So sorry you are going through this. When it happened to me, I waited for things to take their course and still ended up having to have a D&C under general anaesthetic, so perhaps easier to elect to have the surgery now

I had the surgery too. I didn't want the worry if not knowing if everything had gone and mentally I wanted to know it was done so I could get on with trying. I went on to have another 3 DCs so this long(ish - it felt long to me) period of finding it hard to conceive did end.

I also opted to surgical resolution.

Sorry you are going through this

I have opted for surgical but it wouldn't be done til after 6pm and I would be admitted, which I didn't want. So am coming back Monday for the surgery.

Thank you everyone, it means a lot.

I feel empty. I hope it doesn't happen over the weekend.

So sorry OP xx

I’m so sorry. I had this last year. Exactly same weeks as you and also the once present heartbeat stopped. Mine happened naturally the day after the scan so my D&C (for the following week) was cancelled. The natural management was tough but you find strength from within and you get through it. Plus TLC and emotional support are essentials.

So sorry to read this, I was in a similar boat 2 months ago. I elected for the surgery and I'm very glad I did. I felt really weepy a couple of days after so please take care of yourself. Do you have support in real life? X

I am so sorry, 😢 it is the worst feeling. This happened me at 11 weeks last year, I didn’t want to wait to pass naturally as I felt I couldn’t cope with it. I opted for D&C. It was the best decision for me as I felt I could start to deal with it mentally then. Xx

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's really horrible news to try and digest l. I had 2 MC's last year and it is just heartbreaking. There are no words to fully describe how it feels. I hope you have lots of support around you. Be kind to yourself

I’m so sorry for your loss @nespressowoo xx

Thank you everybody. I have my DH and DS fussing over me. I just hope I don't start to bleed over the weekend. You're all so kind x

I'm so sorry to read a lot of you have gone through it too. Life is really cruel

Sorry to hear your news. This happened to me in February. I opted natural and it took a while but I needed that time to mentally process what was happening.