Confused anxious and scared

[York28]

Hi as the title says I just feel so confused and anxious. I went for dating scan today and based on LMP I expected to be roughly 12 + 1. They told me I was only 4 to 5 but they showed the heartbeat. I did not think it was possible to see a heartbeat via abdominal ultrasound at this stage. They sent me straight to EPU and they took bloods. My HCG has come back at 16000, which they say indicates a pregnancy of 6-12 weeks. So I just don’t understand what is happening. I was expecting either good our bad news at the scan. This weird limbo is extremely hard to process. I have another scan next week and more bloods in two days. I would have preferred good news obviously, but even with definite bad news I could have begun to process it. This middle ground is harder than ever expected. I don’t necessarily expect anyone to have answers but I just had to ‘speak’ to someone. Thank you for reading x

So sorry, how worrying for you. Did they mention what the speed of the heartbeat was?

Thank you. No they did not.

I have no medical answers to offer at all but just wanted to say good luck to you. Pregnancy is such an uncertain time anyway and this sounds particularly nerve wrecking! Do you have a partner to support you?

I am lucky to have an extremely lovely husband. It’s obviously hard for him too but I know we can muddle through!

That's great. Often these things can bring you even closer together, certainly the whole process has for me and my husband. Try to remind yourself that this will pass, however hard it is at the moment.

So hard having to wait until things seem clearer. Wishing you all the best xx

@york28
I just wanted to say that I had an EPU appointment at 6 weeks and I saw the heartbeat through abdominal ultrasound. They say it is quite unusual but can happen. They then did an internal scan to do the measurements. I was about a week behind (5 weeks). I hope your scan next week all works out well.