Two possible baby fathers

[bluevelvet995]

Hi,I have problem figuring out who's the father of my baby . My last period started on 9th of March,and my cycle is around 31-33 days. I had sex with my ex boyfriend on March 18th and we used the pull out method. We were together for a year and we always used the pull out method ,so he never came inside of me and I never had a pregnancy scare with him even tough I know that the method is not 100% effective. Also,based on my period and cycle,I wasn't supposed to ovulate until at least 23rd of March,or even later, so even if there was any sperm in the precum,it is almost impossible that it survived until my ovulation. I had sex with another guy on March 24th after breaking up with my ex boyfriend,and he came inside me. I took the plan B pill on 26th of March,but a month later I found out I was pregnant,and realised that I was ovulating around 24th of March,so that's why the pill probably didn't work. Does anyone have similar experience,or opinion on who is more likely to be the father of my baby? And please no judgement 'cause this situation is already hard enough for me.

I'm sure your current partner will help you pay. He certainly has a vested interest in finding out the answer.

The person telling you that you can't afford a child if you can't afford a test is being ridiculous! Please do not listen to them. I have 2 kids and still wouldn't comfortably be able to afford NIPT but can easily afford my kids. No benefits before anyone jumps on that ignorant theme.

I am not sure how accurate the NIPT tests are for paternity, please check this out throughly. For Down syndrome it is 99% so still has some error or margin. The best bet would be to wait until baby is born. You can be sure if an accurate test and it will be much much cheaper.

This is all new so is a big thing at the moment. Give yourself sometime to get used to it. Have a chat with your bf, if it's not his is that the end of your relationship? If not you can continue planning knowing he will have a part in helping you bring up this child. You just need to be honest with each other.

From your dates it sounds like his but you can just never be certain. Best of luck op

Does guy 2 know that it's quite possible that he's not the father?

Honestly this is not a great start and your relationship is quite likely to fail, so go into this with your eyes wide open. You have a tough road ahead.

Good luck.

If your current bf knows and your ex is a psycho I personally wouldn’t tell the ex even if the baby is his.

I would also plan to do this whole thing alone. I’m also not sure you can call a pregnancy unplanned when you had unprotected sex.

Good luck op, and you might want to get an sti test while you're at it.

That’s a lot of money for the test

How would your DP feel if the baby is your Ex’s? Would you still stay together?

I think if he’s ok with it ( he has no right to be pissed off about it as you were with your ex when you had sex with him, not him) then there’s no pint in wasting a lot of money on a ore natal year if it’s not going to change your plans that’s money that could really set you up with baby stufff etc or a place to live if you aren’t secure where you are.

Obviously it’s not ideal that you don’t know which one is the father, but frankly sex with two men a fortnight apart is nothing to be embarrassed about or judged over so stop thinking like that.

I hope you can get excited about your pregnancy soon🌷

If your current bf knows and your ex is a psycho I personally wouldn’t tell the ex even if the baby is his.

Yes. If you're considering this because of some perceived moral imperative, please take the advice of those who have more life experience and don't.

You won’t know the paternity until you have a test, either prenatally or after the DC is born.

Your situation sounds precarious: given your student status will you be entitled to any benefits at all, any childcare help, or to remain in the country you’re currently living in if you have to end your studies?

It’s probable that you’ll be a single parent. In making plans and decisions don’t assume your BF will share parenting or costs.

Does your boyfriend know that he may not be the father? If not, tell him.

Your BF may wish to pay for the prenatal test to inform his own decisions.

@Hellywelly10 I'm sorry, you are so wrong there! Imagine how easy the Jeremy Kyle Show would have been if that were the case.
Good luck @bluevelvet995, I'd stay well away from your ex, you have time to find this out.

I know that having unprotected sex can result in pregnancy at some point ,so I know I made a mistake. This is the first time I slept with someone who was not my boyfriend at the time and this soon after break up,but I don't usually go around and sleep with random guys and I always had only serious relationships. It just happened that this first time I did something like this,it resulted in pregnancy and now I'm in a mess.

My current boyfriend knows about everything cause I wouldn't lie about this kind of stuff or hide it,especially cause he's been very supportive from the beginning and we get along very well so I don't want to build this relationship on lies and I want to make it work,especially if he's the father. He might also be supportive if the baby is not his,but he is under lot of influence from his family,so I'm not 100% sure if he would stay with me if that's the case.

I'm gonna do the test anyways to be 100% sure. I just have to talk with my current boyfriend if I'm gonna do it now ,or after the baby is born.