18 and pregnant?

[ohmydarlinh]

I really need some advice. I've never posted on here but it seemed a good place to start. I turned 18 last week so only just really started being an adult. I'm also a student. A few days ago I found out I'm pregnant and I'm terrified. I swore to myself I'd never have kids and I have no money at all, a very unstable job, a boyfriend who is more bothered about sex and videogames that's unemployed. I'm fucked. I don't know what to do and I've built up walls of tv shows and movies to distract me which worked at first but now I'm completely stuck. I don't even want to think about what to do with it, my boyfriend is severely against abortion but I know I can't live with a baby when I have no way to provide for it. Help.

So sorry to hear you’re going through this

You need to do what’s best for you, have you told anyone else? Family or doctors?

This is not your boyfriend's choice.

Confide in your mum if you can, someone else if not and get all the support you can to help you make the right decision for you.

Good luck.

What do you want to do OP?

It's all very well your boyfriend declaring he's severely against abortion, but he can't tell you what to do with your own body.

If you want a termination, you can have one, it's your decision and nobody else's.

If you want to keep the baby, that's your decision too. But he'll need to grow up and step up.

You are what's important here, start with that and go from there.

Sorry to hear about this. Do you have a family member you could speak to?

The main thing is that you have choices, and although it won't be an easy thing to think about, the decision should be yours and whatever you decide is okay 🙂

all the glitter* I havent told anyone else at this point - I think I'm scared of peoples reactions

Any idea how far along you are?
Do not listen to your bf, do what you want to do because you can guarantee he likely won’t step up by the sounds of it to provide and support you. There are people you can speak to who can provide you with all the information you need to make your decision

How do you feel about a termination? Is there anyone irl that you can talk to about your opinions?

Try the doctors first, there will be no judgement and they will be able to talk through your options.

Do you know how far gone you are? If you want to continue the pregnancy then do so, don’t have an abortion for him.

Sorry wrong way around!

what I meant is it’s your decision and don’t do anything you don’t want to do!

This is absolutely your choice and nothing to do with boyfriend. I would make an emergency appointment with your GP tomorrow and go in and have a chat. They will be able to go through all options and what is involved. Are you at all close with your mum that you can discuss this with? I have an 18 year old and I’d support her and want to go with her to GP if she wanted me there to help.

For goodness sake girl, it's entirely your decision what you do about the pregnancy. I know if I was your mum I would want you to have a termination. You don't have to tell anyone, even your boyfriend, you can say it was a false alarm. The chances are, at your age, you won't be together in a year and if you had a baby you'd be well and truly stuck. It's all very well for boyfriend to be anti abortion but he isn't the one who would have to give birth and do the lion's share of looking after.

Think of your future and don't be sentimental.

Make sure you don't get pregnant again until you really are ready.

Good luck .

Abortion is a perfectly reasonable choice, if that's what you want. You don't have to tell anyone. Make a GP appointment.