Baby shower for 2nd baby???

[sianyb83]

I didn't have a baby shower for my first dc, 6 years ago, I also have a lot more friends then 6 years ago (due to career change and having child I think!), so would like to have a baby shower...my bf has offered to organize it.
But will people think I'm being a diva?
Secondly, I work for an America company, and my bosses based there have already asked if I'm registered - I didn't understand at first, but had this explained as a gift register!!
The other mums at work suggested John Lewis so I have done a short list of bits I need on there (priced between 8-60 pounds), to send on to work colleague who organizing this sort of stuff. She then said reuse the list for baby shower guests??
As in anything I don't get forward on to guests.
Is that too much?
Friends at work suggested people might like it as its my second baby, they might not know what to get, or what I already have etc.
But could I come across as a diva??

If I had a friend doing the same I wouldn’t say anything, I’d show up, probably buy a present from the list ... but would I like it? No. I’d think it was very tacky and grabby. I’d also think you were making such a fuss of having a baby that most people I know don’t.

I'm quite surprised that American colleagues are suggesting a shower, ad it's rather naff/grabby er there to have a second one.

You shouid nit send a gift list for a shower. The actual host should discreetly coo-ordinate to avoid duplicates. As 'shower--type gift' is shorthand for 'inexpensive/useful/utilitaian item' there really isn't a need to involve technology or limit which shops. Showers should be the people closest too you only, so coordination in person is not an arduaous task.

I would cut the price point on the gift list if you decide you really must have one (but yes you'll look like a diva for having one - at all, let alone for a second). Most gifts under £20 for a first baby (maybe a couple up to £30 if you are in affluent circles) and lower than that if you must do it again.

People always say they're grabby, but I buy bits for my friends anyway (because I want to), and whether they have a baby shower or not doesn't effect that. I say go for it if it's what you like, if nothing else it's a nice way to get your friends together and have a chat.

"It's absolutely fine- just say no gifts!"

Don't call it a shower then - the whole purpose of a shower is to 'shower with gifts' so if you want a different type of party, then call it something else

Thanks for replies...based on comments I will go ahead with baby shower, BUT will so no gifts.
I volunteer one evening a week for a charity that donates Moses baskets full of essentials for mums in need, by midwife referral, so I might say 'no gifts please, but feel free to bring a donation for XXX' (most items £2-3 pounds like shampoo, toothpaste, wipes etc)
I know not everyone likes baby showers - but I have been to A LOT and have nothing against them...on a practical level its aa way to see all your friends in one place, and takes pressure off catching up individually before/ after you have the baby.
I think having one for a second baby is a bit OTT if you had one for your first, and if its the same set of friends....
But in my case as I said I didn't have one last time, and through have my DS and career change I have a much wider network of friends now.

You want a colleague to spend £60 on your baby? That's not actually born yet. £60??

I think collecting the donations for charity is a really lovely idea.

I think your update is a great idea.

Hate baby showers. Inevitably your friends will visit you after you have the baby and may bring a gift then. If I had gifted at a baby shower I would then feel under pressure (not from the mum but from myself) to bring a second gift when I visited and that's wrong in my opinion.

Cringe!