Some reassurance please...

[S082018]

Hi all

I guess it's just as the title suggests. Looking for a little reassurance...

I'm 6 weeks pregnant and other than feeling very tired, I'm also crazy emotional and crying very easily. This has caused my husband and I to have more bickers (this week especially) than usual.

Don't get me wrong, I know arguments in any marriage is normal but I guess the irrational side of me is thinking we shouldn't be arguing at the minute it's supposed to be a happy time and bringing us closer together (which aside from this week, things have been fine). I think my husband is finding it difficult that I'm not full of life at the moment like I usually am and I'm sleeping a lot more than usual. He works away during the week and so I only really get to see him on long weekends which mainly includes Friday and Monday too. I guess for him, the limited time we have together is being taken up by my exhaustion and heightened emotions which isn't the most pleasant combination!

At the same time, I've tried to explain to him that it's not going to last forever and I can't bloody help feeling this way!! He said he will try to be a bit more understanding and I've said I'll try not to spend too much of our time together asleep although I do need to rest.

I guess I would just like to hear if anybody else found that getting used to pregnancy in the early stages caused a bit of tension or a bit of an adjustment for both parties and how best to overcome that? I guess a big part of my emotion too is the anxiety of the hoping all goes okay with my pregnancy as it'll be our first.

I imagine this probably sounds a bit silly to some but I've recently found MN quite helpful just to vent and hear the views of others and so I'd really appreciate some reassurance and just a general pick me up! Feeling a bit "meh"'at the moment.

Thank you in advance x

Hi OP.

I wrote a post similar to yours a few weeks ago. Honestly, try not to let it get under your skin. Men definitely don't understand even if they try to. my OH was extremely... lacking in the "support" area at first. I remember feeling really down because he was making me feel guilty for sleeping a lot and not doing any house work (I was so exhausted and sick I just couldn't lift myself from the sofa!)

I am not 12 weeks and tbh, he has been so good over the past 4 weeks. I think once he witnessed me throwing my guts up one night he really realised how bad I actually felt. He pulled his socks up and was a lot more supportive and did pretty much all of the housework as well as working a 45 hour week (bless him).

I still feel grim but hoping it isn't much longer before I start to feel more like my old self.

hang in there, you aren't alone with how you feel. I think a lot of women feel like this and the pregnancy hormones definitely do not help!

x

It should get easier as the pregnancy progresses. The first trimester is always the toughest imo. Your hormones are absolutely raging, you generally feel run down and I’ll and it’s easy to be irrational. Men don’t fully understand it because it’s something they will never experience. He’s probably a little shocked by the pregnancy (even if planned it can still be a shock) and doesn’t know what to do. You presumably only found out a fortnight ago so it needs to sink in for you both fully yet.

@Marty93 @Pinkmouse6 Thank you so much for your posts ladies. It's so reassuring to know others that have felt the same or know how I'm feeling at the moment! I think I just felt worried yesterday given that it's only early days so I was dreading to think what the next 7-8 months would be like. But as you say, men will never understand as much as they say they will try to so I will hang on in there and try not to stress about it.
Thanks again 😊 x

@Marty93 Also wondering if hubby will be the same if I start to get sickness! He hates seeing me unwell and so I imagine he will pull his socks up too if/when sickness kicks in 🤣

@S082018 honestly now I am starting to get a little bump too he is very attentive. Always texting me through the day asking if I'm ok, do I need anything picking up from the shop before he comes home etc. I think the first few weeks it took a while for the pregnancy to sink in. After all, it's a MASSIVE life event and that little pregnancy test has just changed both of your lives forever!
Once your pregnancy hormones "settle" (if they ever really settle!) and you're a bit further along in your pregnancy, you'll look back and wonder what all the fuss was about!

If you ever need to vent I'm happy to be a good pair of non-judging ears! Us crazy pregnant women need to have each other's backs! Lol!

@Marty93 Awww your OH sounds lovely! My hubby is being a bit on the softer side this week since we had our chat (just before I wrote this thread) where he said he'd be more understanding! He's checked in with me a few times today.
I think I was just having a bit of a moment on Monday - no doubt I'll have more moments like this over the next few months 🤣 so thank you again for your kind words and reassurance! I'll definitely come back to vent if and when I need to!!
Hope you are having a happy and healthy pregnancy so far and it continues to be so 😊