OCD- who’s the father?

[sunnyblueskies]

Hi!

I wondered if anyone suffers with OCD? Not the stereotypical “cleaning type” but the type where a random thought will pop in your head. You obsess over it and start to believe it me it consumes you 24/7. That’s me and I’m having a hard time right now.

I’m pregnant 19+3. Due 14th November.
We are so excited. We split up in the first week of January and we got past the huge issues and got back together. In those couple of weeks I was utterly heartbroken to the point I was sick etc and didn’t know what to do with myself. So I went out and met an old acquaintance and we had sex, once unprotected (it made me feel worse not better and have been tested since) please no judgement. I was on the tail end of my period. These are the dates:

Slept with said guy on 11/1 (tail end of period)
Got back with partner a week later (he knows about him too)
Got period on 07/02.
Ovulation smiley face on 24/2 (sex with current partner before and after smiley ovulation positive)
Positive pregnancy test 5/3

The dates work out to the very day with the scans (based on first day of last period, implying boyfriends baby)
But OCD has gripped onto the what ifs and miracles happening etc and it’s killing me. I know it’s there in black and white that I’m being totally stupid and the facts are there but I feel sick thinking about it. Has anyone experienced this? Can anyone reassure me I’m being an absolute dick head?

Thank you so much xx

I had sex between 9 and 13th Jan to conceive with an early October due date, so with your dates I'd think it extremely unlikely to be the other guy.

It’s not the ither Guy. You’ve had a period and the dates are working out for the November baby.

I can see why you are obsessing about it BUT this baby is your partner, not the ONS

You may well have been fertile when you slept with the other guy, I tend to be fertile in the last day or so of my period, but that would put your due date an entire month earlier than the one you've got. Since your current due date has been confirmed by scans etc, there's absolutely no way you'd be an entire month out with dates.

Unless there's something weird or ambiguous about either period date there is no doubt at all that it's your boyfriend's baby.

I'm due 1st November with a LMP of 25/1. You'd be due October if it was the other mans.

You’re due about a week later than me. I conceived on 15 Feb (I only had sex once in Feb!) so I think that the evidence indicates that it is highly, HIGHLY likely the father is the last guy you had sex with.

If you have spoken to your OH about the circumstances and you know the facts (in your heart), then perhaps you are having some antenatal anxiety...have you considered speaking to the MW or your GP at all? Anxiety is a marker for increased risk of PND later, so perhaps consider that 😳

And medicalise this fear you have. It’s not because you’re really consciously worried, it’s because your body isn’t dealing so easily with the increased hormones of pregnancy. Which is fine. And largely treatable. Good luck xx

Your boyfriend is the father without a doubt. Hope you are OK