First time and not the maternal type - help!

[kidsareok]

Hi everyone! Hope you're all well . I am 9 weeks pregnant with my first baby and to tell you the truth, I'm excited but terrified!! I'm in a stable relationship with my partner and we love each other and both have good jobs and a nice home etc BUT this was totally unplanned! Until I met my partner a few years ago I was single, travelling the world, going to parties, living in London and generally having the best carefree time ever! I'm 36 (so not even a youngster!) and I feel like this is going to be such a life changer! I'm excited and I know it'll change things in a great way but I'm also terrified and to top it all off, I've never been the mumsy type!! Babies - yeah they're ok, I'll hold one if I have to but I'm more than happy to hand them back and go and have a cocktail somewhere nice instead! Basically - I'm just wondering if there's anyone out there who can relate?! Any more 'unmumsy' types who are excited but VERY nervous about what's to come? Any stories about how life changes for the better? Any inspo to help me focus on my new exciting times ahead and stop me having flashbacks to sailing on a boat through Europe with a wine in hand would be great!! Thanks everyone

I was the same. I was given a bit of a medical "sooner rather than later" with regards to pregnancy because of my own health. Fell pregnant straight away so had little time to even think about it. Never bothered about kids - I like the kids I like (nieces, nephews etc) but that's about it.

DS is 7 months old now and it's the best thing I've ever done. It helps that he is such an easy baby (and I really appreciate that as we won't be having any more!) but I'm amazed at how maternal I am which has come from nothing.

Hormones are a powerful thing!

Don't panic! As PP have said, there is a big difference between how you feel about other people's children and how you feel about your own. I could never have imagined that I would love my own child so much (now pregnant with DC2).

I think that the best way to embrace parenthood is to fully embrace it - just accept that this is a completely different phase of your life in which you will do and care about different things. The mums that I know who seem to have struggled with the transition the most are those who tried to keep their "old" life going and then got frustrated that it just wasn't happening. Because their identity was tied to that "old" life, they really felt that they had lost themselves in some way. But I think if you just accept that this is your new life - no better and no worse than your old life, and you are still you at the heart of it - then it is easier to handle the transition.

Hi everyone! So - unfortunately, after some light bleeding and spotting, I had a miscarriage earlier this week 🙁. We thought we were 12 weeks and were getting ready for our first scan but an emergency trip to hospital showed the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. The miscarriage happened pretty soon after we found out and it's was HORRIFIC! I don't understand why nobody talks about these things - it was so physically painful and terrifying. Anyway, I'm going on holiday tomorrow and I'm so scared about getting an infection or developing complications. It will be 8 days since the miscarriage and everything seems normal so far with healing and minimal blood/cramps etc - does anyone have any advice about whether they think I'm past the infection stage yet? Or whether I still need to be vigilant? Also - a huge hug for anyone who has been through this before. I am shocked at how bad it was and feel like it was so much worse than I expected. X