Third baby worries

[wingingiteveryday]

This morning I found out I am pregnant and it's knocked me sideways a bit.

I'm 37, I have 2 kids who are 9 and 5 and things were just getting easy. They're settled at school, they sleep well, things are ticking over finances wise and we have just enough space.

I have embarked on quite an intense e in order to potentially change my career and I felt I had reached a bit of a turning point where as maybe I could take on some more hours, currently work part time and have done for 8 years.

My periods are all over the place since being absolutely destroyed by the injection 2 years ago and sex is a rarity these days. I woke up at 5am this morning and felt so sick that something made me take a test. I just feel so differently about it than the other 2 times and I really don't know why.

I feel overwhelmed and a bit sad, like I won't cope, like we won't afford it, like I won't be able to carry on with the intensity of my qualification, like it's selfish, like it's going to tip a balance and just really uneasy.

Did anyone else feel like this and go on to actually totally cope and be happy with a third?

I'm hoping I am just feeling hormonal and surprised and haven't actually turned into some kind of stone monster 

Hi @wingingiteveryday, we're just bumping this thread for you - hopefully some Mumsnetters will be along soon with some advice and support. . Also, moving this over to the Pregnancy board for you.

Hi op we planned on having a 3rd child but when we became pregnant I still felt worried about tipping the balance and how a 3rd child would affect me and dh, our 2 other children,finances etc etc but I needn't have worried at all,once you've had 2 a 3rd really just slots in and everything falls into place! it's lovely being a family of 5! (although we are now expecting our 4th... so were soon to be 6) but your other 2 children are nice ages and will prob be very helpful....we have a 7,5 and 2 year old and the two eldest are very excited about another sibling and happy to help get nappies,do chores and play with the youngest. Hope you feel a bit better about it and just think of how amazing it will be to have another member of your family to love and be loved by!

It's great to say, ah you'll love your DC3 and it'll be great. And for the most part, that will be true!
But your feelings are valid and strong and you really, really, really need to honor what it is you want out of life right now. Because this is a huge, long-term commitment which will totally impact/put the brakes on whatever it is you're qualifying for. You have to be ok with this and just roll with life.
How's your DH about it all?
On the other hand, you'll never regret your DC3. But will you feel overwhelmed? Nobody can know this.