Giving siblings same middle name

[Yorkshiremummy88]

Hiya im currently pregnant with DD2. She is my partners first child and as both girls will have different surnames he has suggested using the same middle name that my first daughter has to sort of link both girls. My mum says its weird so put me off a little. What does everyone think,?

I don’t think it’s necessary, but I don’t think it’s a terrible idea.
Kids don’t need the same surname or middle name or whatever to feel like siblings. It’s a sweet suggestion by your OH, but I can understand why your mum thinks it’s weird.
Also, although it’s a really lovely suggestion, in theory, it could be misinterpreted. Almost like DD1s name was forgotten when DD2 was born, and you accidentally used the same name twice...but I guess only because it’s an unusual idea

My friend & her siblings all share a middle name. It's an unusual unisex name that also happens to be their mother's maiden name. It works really well for both the boys & the girls.

Someone I know has done this with her children as it is a family surname but then realised it means her kids have the same initials as their first names start with the same letter. So along as you avoid that I think it I'd fine

I don't see the point of that at all.

My DC have the same middle name (my surname). Never been an issue - middle names are seldom used anyway.

When I was younger I was always thrilled t I had two middle names and why I had each name. So were my sisters. I would have hated to have to share a name! When you’re young anything that’s a little different than your siblings can be treasured. I wouldn’t do it.

I think it's a bit odd. A middle name is like a second first name, not a 'family' name. Unless there is a particular reason for that name (like a family surname), or is it simply that it's already your DD1's middle name?

My BIL and SIL did this with my nephews for the same reason. And then we used the same middle name for ds. (Mainly because we liked the name and it went well with his first name but it did seem nice to have a link to his cousins.) Oldest nephew now has a son of his own who also has the same middle name!

(To be fair - it is a very common middle name!)

This used to be relatively common.

Thanks for your replies, the middle name isnt sentimental but feel it goes well with the first name we have chosen too. The middle name is Belle.

It was quite common in Scotland to give all children their mothers maiden name as a middle name I think. Might be wrong there. I like it.

My sons both have the same middle name. It’s a family tradition on my dads side to have this middle name if you are a boy (a different one if you’re a girl.)

I dithered about and couldn’t decide if it was worse for them to have the same name or for one not to have that family connection. I remember being annoyed my brother had 2?middle names and I only had one !

It has never been an issue and my kids are grown now.

My brothers and me have two middle names, with one of them being the same name (family surname). My kids also have two middle names, with one of them being my surname as they have their dad's surname as a last name.

My nephews have the same middle name and I find it weird.

I share a middle name with my sister.

We were delivered by the same midwife, and it was her favourite name.

I like sharing it.

All three of my sons have the same middle name. Not really what I wanted but their dad wouldn't pick a middle name or say he liked any so I threatened to just use his middle name as theirs. Strangely he agreed to that so they all got the same middle name!! I strongly wanted a middle name, he didn't. It was a compromise that worked for us.

Same as a PP. We have given my children the same middle name as it happens to be my surname but also an accepted forename. Do saves double barrelling basically.