Everyones opinions on my bump!

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So bit of a rant!! But why is it when your pregnant people think they can comment on the size of your bump if it's "too big" or "too small". Yes I'm only half way through my pregnancy and it looks like I'm ready to give birth any day. But people saying "oooo you've ate all the cakes" or "come along fatty" or "look how huge you are!!". These are work colleagues who are generally lovely and they don't mean any harm by it and I am sure it's all said in jest, but after walking down the corridor and having three similar comments made within two minutes it's getting me down!! After a while it's not funny. Maybe I am being far too sensitive but my smile is spreading thin when they say it. Anyone else had this!?

Im 19wks and people say im big or your going to have a big baby, i have small babies but big bumps. Enjoy your big bump x

I’m huge, and get your sure there’s only one.
No the 4 scans and all that means, I’m sure they are wrong!!!
The other one is, your sure your only 21 weeks!!!
I just ignore them now, it’s that or hit one of them.

Yes they will say this until you give birth. It is one of the most annoying things about pregnancy. Ignore them!!!

Or, you could just enjoy it?
Being pregnant is an amazing time and a pregnant belly is a wonderful thing to see.
I felt really proud of mine and enjoyed comments! They're meant with the best of intentions (well, any I received we're taken that way!)

I feel you! I get it all the time. Work and DH just said "how much does it even weigh? Why are you struggling to bend down?"

Oh I don't know. Because I am 29 weeks, 5ft and have a bad back. It's like having a bowling ball permanently attached to you. My bump isn't heavy, it just gets in the way!

I literally told a guy at work the other day to f* off. He keeps making jabs and it's not funny !!

I agree it’s not ok.

It’s not ok and annoyed the shit out of me.
Mostly it was childless friends who did it though, because in reality they think a 6 mth bump is what a full term belly looks like - blame TV/film/media for that! A full term 9 month stretched to the limit belly definitely doesn’t get as much visibility.

I loved my bump, looking back it was big but I carried a lot of water and I had a fairly big baby. But I really disliked the comments, one person in particular made and still makes comments on where I carried my weight as well.
But I’d be considered a rude bitch if I pointed out she has a considerable belly despite not being pregnant!
Sorry no words of wisdom but agree wholeheartedly

Yes it's fucking annoying I had this throughout my pregnancy. The comments won't stop either until after birth.

Try not to take it too personally, I do understand how hard it is though. xx

I really hate it. I have a difficult relationship with my body at the best of times and I struggle with the physical changes in pregnancy.
Depending on the person, I've started telling them that (so they stop commenting) or saying something back ranging from 'no I'm just fat actually' up to 'oh wow you're getting bigger and bigger too, we must be due around the same time' to someone clearly not pregnant who'd kept commenting on my size after I told her it upset me.
My fil is the worst, didn't believe I was pregnant with my first because I was 'just getting fat'. Then when the baby was born he had lots to say about her appearance too, all unkind.

Thank you ladies!! Yes it's very annoying like you say but will have to not let it bother me. I was very close to tell them where to shove it yesterday but maybe it was one of those days! Nice to know it's not just me. I am very proud of my bump and can't wait for little one to arrive. Thank you for all the lovely replies!xxx

It’s very very irritating. I get that pregnancy is pretty boring for everyone other than the expectant mum and dad - there’s not actually that much to say about it. I get that people are trying to make conversation. But why do you have to make conversation about the appearance of my body - it certainly wouldn’t be acceptable if I made conversation about the state of yours!

Another thing that annoys me is when people accuse you of being ‘hormonal’ when you don’t find their ‘jokes’ about your body, or childbirth, or child rearing amusing. No, I’m not hormonal. You’re just unoriginal and not funny and I can’t be arsed to laugh.

It’s so annoying. I’ve not had negative comments from strangers but in my first pg. my mum kept referring to me as fat or big because of my bump even tho I was fairly slim and still going to the gym 5 times a week. It’s hard when you are sensitive about your body changing anyway. Get some sarky responses ready. Most people are nice and complimentary though.

When you're pregnant people comment on your bump , when your baby is here they'll say things about your baby. Most of the time they're just making conversation, I agree that it can be tedious though.

I get exactly the opposite. I'm 32+6 and my bump is relatively small but I'm really petite and always have been so I think it's just normal for my body. But the amount of people that feel the need to comment and say "are you sure there is a baby in there?" I get they are just joking but it did make me really worried at some stages that my baby wasn't growing enough and there would be complications. Thank god my midwife reassured me that I'm growing fine and my baby is fine.

It's horrible the other way too isn't it if they say it's "too small!" I think like you all say no one means any harm but it is very annoying!! I am just letting it go over my head now and take it as a compliment (I may make some sarcastic comments back to them on the days where I don't find it so complimentary though haha)!!!

I never really had people commenting on my size (I think I must have a scary resting expression!!) but now I'm nearly due I'm close to strangling the next person who chirpily asks me if I'm 'still hanging on in there?!' I live in a small village and am almost reluctant to go out because I'm so tired of saying yep, still pregnant! I haven't even hit my due date yet -- goodness knows what it will be like if I go over. 🤣

I haven't had this at all (I'm 21 weeks and massive) probably because I "have an air of scariness" according to my BIL!

I'm only 10 weeks and a colleague pulled me to one side today and asked if I was expecting!!!! (Haven't told anyone at work yet).... So trust me, I am NOT looking forward to the "sure there isn't two in there?" Comments either! I think it is so rude to make comments on women's body when they are pregnant. Your hormones are all over the place and you feel rubbish as it is. The last thing you need is people confirming that you look like a beached whale!

Luckily my OH and family say that even though I have a bit of a belly already, I look lovely and are being so sweet (even if they're fibbing I appreciate it lol!) and my OH can't stop kissing my belly and telling me how cute I look.

Ignore the rude comments - your body is doing a wonderful thing and I bet you look kick-ass amazing! :) xxx