25 weeks pregnant husband driving me mad

[lynzw]

I don't know if it's the hormones but just feel like I get no help at home and because my husband works 6 days a week (I work 2 and we have a 3 year old) I'm guilt tripped to do most things he can be supportive but I've been so tired with a poorly 3 year old for the last 2 weeks and nursery have called me last week and one before to come and get her and my husband didn't leave work on either and I had to on both. I've been up most nights and try not let our toddler was him as he's up at 6am every morning but I am getting to the point of being so drained and now he has a cold he wants me to play a mini violin for him?! It's driving me insane. I accidentally spilt the mop bucket then something else and he had a go at me and I just snapped and he then called me a psycho!!! Which to me is just a no no to a hormonal pregnant person. Anyone else's husbands drive them to the point of just wanting to slap them! Help!! Going insane!

If he is up at 6am and works 6 days a week he must be a bit knackered too
Can you get time to calmly talk to each other?

@Wildorchidz I know and then I feel bad for feeling like this, yes but we both just clash and are bickering at the minute.

I'm only 15weeks an my oh does my head in some days he stresses me out so much we argu daily atm his just so selfish I work he works I have 2 children to look after aswel an he just does what he wants to do all the time I feel ur pain

Glad I'm not the only one.
Currently almost 29weeks and some days I look at my DH and wonder why I married him.
Can't stand him and the poor sod hasn't done anything wrong! We don't even sleep in the same bed anymore as he snores too much and doesn't like waking me
Hopefully it passes in time!!

Been there. It's the hormones and (for me at least) I was angry at myself because I couldn't/can't do all the things I could before as easily so I'm very much reliant on my bf. I hate that, I hate having to ask for help or waiting for things to be done/cleaned because I can't do them myself.
(38 weeks pregnant)

@MissFloof yes I think that is exactly what it is! A couple of weeks back I was tidying up my daughters toys and hoovering and I got the worse pain (prob just ligaments stretching) and was on settee for an hour so worried I swore to myself that day I'd take it more easy so just frustrates me when I see things I could have easily done and now can't. X

100% can relate to this! I'm 26 weeks and I've genuinely googled getting a divorce over the last few weeks.
I think it comes down to the fact that they just don't consider how tired or crap we are feeling! My husband wouldn't think to clean or tidy or make us tea unless asked. To be fair to him even when he has tried to help I've been so angry and snappy with him that he's probably trying to stay out of my way. I did tell my midwife and she laughed and said it was normal, but I also hope this passes soon!

@lynzw It drives me crazy when he does do the things that are needed to be done but it is often done slow or half assed. The poor guy tries, I appreciate it but.. UGH.
For example, we have pet rats. The cage needs cleaning twice a week and litter trays cleaned every two days. All he has to do is take out the fleece floor and wet smelly hammocks, replace and hoover the cage and underneath the cage. He does the first bit (most of the time) but then doesn't hoover under the cage.. So there is rat food and rat poop under the cage. It is clearly there! Ugh :D

Its just annoying. I know I can do a lot of these things to the standard it should be at but I just can't do it at the moment with this massive bump, cramping and ligament/back pain. Its so frustrating seeing him sleeping well, being able to do EVERYTHING I can't do! I feel like while I'm pregnant, everything changes for me but nothing (barely) does for him. For god sake! Give the man some stretch marks! Make him leak through his shirt ahaha

It will "pass". You need to talk to your husband and let him calmly know how you're feeling. Hopefully he will be more compassionate when you will fly off the handle. It is so hard controlling your emotions. I thought I was doing really well for the last 8 months, but well in this case meant keeping my emotions to myself. But now I'm finding myself crying all the time out of frustration. Its much easier with him knowing how I'm feeling

@MissFloof @Jennylou88 I know it's like we both chose to have another baby and I am so so grateful especially after having a miscarriage last year (which I think adds to my anxiety which results in me getting angry more easily) but like he has a cold and I hear about it I'm absolutely drained and large together with heartburn a toddler waking me up all night. Why can't they just get a tiny symptom to have any idea what we have to go through

@lynzw This is my first. I'm grateful too, he works and tries to help occasional but I'm left to do nearly everything. (on top of full time University education)
It does really annoy me that I'm writhing in pain on the sofa and he turns around and complains about having a cold xD