Not feeling excited

[charlyb]

First pregnancy, 30 weeks. Anyone else just not feeling excited at all? I was until recently but I'm just sick of people commenting on my physical appearance all the time and constantly telling me I should be excited but I'm just not. I've not had an easy pregnancy from the start. Anyone else felt like this with theirs?

Yes me! I don't know if I'm scared to be excited (4th pregnancy but first time I've got this far - almost 22 weeks) or because I'm still scared something will happen. Sometimes I feel like I don't believe it is really happening either? But my MIL and DH's whole family are very excited and I can't handle it. I told them they need to calm down 😳😂 I think I'd feel better if everyone else wasn't so bothered about it! My own family are pretty relaxed about it which makes it easier. Tbh I haven't even told all my friends yet - I'd just not bother if I could get away with it! I don't really know why?

Oh and also people telling me I should be enjoying it? I don't need to enjoy it, I just need to get through it. Leave me alone! 😂

@russiandwarf oh bless you I'm so sorry to hear!😔 that's completely understandable! I really hope it all goes well for you! Definitely the pressure from family & friends doesn't help at all, I wish mine was just kept a secret in a way, as bad as it sounds😔 people have no right to say how we should feel at all, everyone is different, especially if you've had bad experiences before!

That's so true, no-one takes into account what might have happened to you in the past! I think they can't get beyond their own excitement 😳 I'm annoyed for you that people are commenting on your appearance! Who asked them?! I think it's all quite surreal and there are so many things to get through (birth!) that it's hard to be excited. Who gets excited about pain and trauma?! 😂 I'll believe it when I see and hold the baby 🤞 But then we'll be fighting off excited in-laws and that's a whole new ball game...