Anxious!

[Marshmallow1992]

I'm 5+2 pregnant with my first after 10months ttc and feel like I'm driving myself absolutely mad.
I'm constantly thinking that this is going to go wrong and keep reading stories of miscarriages and I feel today that my sore boobs have completely gone and that is a sign of miscarriage?! Why am I feeling like this? I honestly just keep thinking the worst is going to happen. Does anyone who has felt like this have any tips for me to help relax?

@Marshmallow1992 I could have written this exact message when I was 5 weeks! I was super anxious, didn’t feel pregnant and worried about all the things that could go wrong at that stage! Things that helped me were keeping busy, repeating positive affirmations (you can find some for pregnancy on YouTube) and not googling! I also had an early reassurance scan at 8 weeks which probably helped the most!

Honestly, you will sorry but you need to try to relax about it. I found that by thinking I was doing everything within my power really helped. So resting a lot at the start, limited exertion, eating extremely well and cutting out all the non recommended things (caffeine/ uncooked eggs / rare meat etc) - really helped me feel in control as much as possible.

Also don’t expect you will have every symptom that is common, you may feel really well or you may get sever sickness - either is fine! Once you’re slightly more progressed you’ll have the reassurance of baby wiggles. And getting an early scan can really calm you down. (Not medical) I’d however not get one if there were any chance of it causing you to worry more - history of fibroids or something. But be guided by your own thoughts on it and see how you feel.

Congratulations on your pregnancy

I felt exactly the same and still do at 16 weeks!! So I don't really have any advice but it is normal ;)

Thanks everyone. I want to try and relax it's so hard I've never felt as anxious in my life! I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one.

Omg this is me at the moment. I'm so anxious it's awful and just need people to talk to. I'm a week behind you OP. I have booked a viability scan which will be at 7+4. It really is a scary time. I've been trying my best to distract myself. STOP GOOGLING 🙂. I've been doing colouring and meditation and lots of dog walking which has helped xx

It’s super normal to worry but I hope you can try to be less anxious, and always discuss it with your midwife at your appointments if you feeling really worried. They can do heart beat checks for you etc talking helped me.

And dog walks, staying busy / engaged with stuff helps prevent thinking the worst case anyway - maybe plan things you won’t be able to do as easily when baby arrives? I found looking forward to stuff helped too!

I totally know what you mean! I'm 5w+2 today and I read some scary stories which were not helpful so I agree with @zenlife ... stop googling! I've just been concentrating on my health and diet, I'm diabetic to keeping on top of my blood sugar levels, eating better and drinking more water have kept me busy.

I also downloaded a book on Audible called 'How to Grow a Baby and Push it out' ... my favourite title of a book ever! It's written by a british midwife and according to her less than 20% of pregnancies end in a miscarriage so let's focus on the 80%

Thanks, work keeps me busy all day. It's when I come home I start to worry. I need to take up a hobby of some sort! Thanks so much for all the tips.

You are definitely not alone! I can tell you that from my own excessive googling when I was 5 weeks there are a lot of people out there that feel the same.

It's not easy and I don't think there is much you can do to stop yourself from worrying but I found that having a few close friends I could talk to during those weeks really helped so it wasn't just spiralling round the echo chamber in my head. And do NOT Google! Your brain will hunt out the answers that back up it's fears, perhaps if you really want an answer to something ask your partner to Google it for you, they'll probably find more reassuring answers.

Those first 12 weeks are some of the hardest mentally and it feels like you have the least support so please do talk, even if it's just to a select few people. Saying it out loud won't jinx it, no matter what your head/society tries to tell you. I'm 18 weeks now and proved the little monster in my head wrong.

Take care!

Just wanted to let you know that worrying doesn't change anything, as I've had an early miscarriage a week after finding out I was pregnant. I think next time I won't worry as much as it really doesn't change what is going to happen. And these things happen for a reason xxx

My symptoms were loss of pregnancy symptoms, sudden cramping and lower back ache, diarrhoea and then heavy bleeding / passing of products. It happened quite quickly xx

This was me at 5 weeks. I just couldn't relax and was googling miscarriage symptoms obsessively. I was my own worst enemy.

Someone said this to me and it is so true. Every pregnancy is different. Lack of symptoms means absolutely nothing. I had pretty much no symptoms at all until 8 weeks, then they would disappear for days at a time. I completely panicked. Everything was fine. I'm currently 23 weeks and getting kicked!

Just keep telling yourself "for today I'm pregnant" and try to think on the basis that unless you have pain and bleeding, everything is fine.