Prom or pprom

[tara85]

Today i want to talk about prom or pprom. Why are women not told by there midwifes and other health providors regarding this??
Im 34+2 into my pregnancy and at 33+5 my waters ruptured. Obviously for us this was a massive scare and would be for any women as this is not what you are told can happen however after spendin 4days in hospital & still no baby i found that this is very common in women even if you have had normal pregnancys before. So now im feeling robbed of my birthing plan as that now cant go the way i would of liked however that being said this was and still is the most terrifing time of my life and i just feel if we was told this could happen i wouldnt have been so scared. So now im sitting on a time bomb not knowing if my son will b born today,tommorrow or in 2weeks time. All i do no is that whatever happens he will be strong & will get throu this but being told this was a possiblity in the 1st place & that it happens to many mums would have made this so much less stressfull and easier to deal with. I have had 2previous health normal pregnancys so this never would of crosses my minfmd that it could happen nor until friday did i even no it was a thing. Has any1 else had the same experiance? How was you left feeling?? Im told my little boy is on the small side so if born now will need extra help however being 34weeks he still has a fighting chance of being fit enought to fight it for himself without any help but still regardless the not knowing doesnt help. I just wish we was given this kind of information at the start so it wasnt so shocking & feeling like im the only one going throu this

I don't have experience of prom but wanted to send you my best wishes that baby stays put for a little longer and everything works out ok. I can see what you mean about not being so scared if you knew how common it can be. Sorry you feel so alone, hopefully someone else with relevant experience can help.

One of the unfortunate things about pregnancy is that there are a lot of things that can go wrong but being too aware of them can cause more worry than good. I think it's a balance between being prepared and not worry about all possibilities.

Sorry you're going through this, must be very scary for you. It is true though, you're at a good gestation and your baby is likely to only need a little support if born now.

With regards to the midwife not telling you, I can kind of see your point but there are so many things that can go wrong in a pregnancy but they are unlikely to for most women, if they started the pregnancy with a huge list of all the problems that could arise I think most pregnant women would have severe anxiety and a majority of them will never have the complications anyway.

Your mw can’t tell you about every possible pregnancy complication. That is why women do need to do their own research too. Sorry you’re experiencing this but you can’t blame the mw for not anticipating this unless of course you had the risk factors associated with this (ie smoker, underweight, infection, bleeding in late pregnancy).

Im going through this right now. My waters broke three weeks ago at 29+1. Stayed in hospital for a few days then was allowed home, was told they wouldn't let me go past 34 weeks. I then went into labour naturally a few days later, at 30+5 and had an emergency c-section.

My daughter is now 12 days old and will be in intensive care until July (her original due date). My pregnancy was absolutely fine with no issues at all until my waters went. I also had no idea this could happen so it was all a massive shock as it happened so quickly.

The part I'm struggling with most is not being pregnant any more. I was absolutely loving being pregnant and was looking forward to having 10 more weeks to get ready and wind down. Its hard having that taken away from you unexpectedly.

Hope you are okay - I know exactly what you are going through!

Thank you,hearing your story makes me feel a little more at ease and knowing im not the only 1going throu this doea help. Ive been told today my little boy weighs 4lb 5oz and is too small so they wanted to induce me today however after advise off more than 1doctor theres no reason to deliver him now and aslong as hes fine & im fine theres no reason why he cant stay inside me until 36weeks unless he decides to make an apperiance. I suppose its the speed of it all & the not really knowing thats scary. I hope your little girl is doing well & thank you for sharing your experiance as i no it aint easy xx

I'm so sorry you're both going through this -
I don't know if this will help, but i just finished reading this lovely older thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2937321-hand-hold-please-pre-eclampsia
which shows a lovely positive outcome to a premature birth. I thought it might help a bit if you haven't already seen it.