Hate wishing my life away- 11 weeks!

[Kate3150]

Has anyone felt throughout their pregnancy that they’ve just wished time away?
I actually can’t believe I’ve made it to 11 + 1 as it doesn’t feel that long ago I was 5 weeks. But I feel I’m constantly looking ahead thinking I can’t wait to be 20 weeks then when I get there I’ll wish I was 30 weeks. I just wish I could enjoy day to day more without worrying about if something bad will happen xx

I'm 11+2 today and feel exactly the same.

Counting down the days until my 12week scan...

No words of wisdom from me, but just to say you're not alone! Xx

I'm 13+4 and I know exactly what you mean, I have my "12 week" scan tomorrow. Then I'll be anxious for 20. Mostly I can't wait until I can feel them move.

@WildFlower2019- thank you 🥰. I’ve got my scan in 2 weeks and don’t think I’ll even feel better after that 😂. That’s why I’ve not bothered with any early scans as it would only provide comfort for maybe a day or 2 then I’d worry again. It’s so hard to enjoy pregnancy when you’ve suffered a loss x

@smartcarnotsosmartdriver- ahhh hope all goes well tomorrow, how are you feeling!? X

Yes I was like this with pregnancy number 1. Pregnancy number 2 was completely different. Didn't really ever check the weeks / days and 39 weeks was suddenly here in a flash!

Im wishing away until this morning sickness goes as well as my scans.

It's very hard to enjoy pregnancy after a loss. My first was a mmc, 2nd i was anxious as hell to the point i ended up with PND. Wishing away so you get to a safe time is normal but if you find yourself struggling talk to your midwife.

Aww I'm sorry for your loss. . We had to have a TFMR last year, so this is also our rainbow baby 🌈 definitely full of worry.

We did have an 8w scan but you're right, it does very little to ease the worrying and wishes that everything is ok. It only made me feel better for a couple of days.

My 12week scan is on Thursday this week (midwife dates me about 12 weeks exactly that day but I know I'm not. So that's why the early scan when I'm 11+5.). I am seeing the consultant a week later so I figure if it's too early to take NT measurements, they will prob do it a week later in my consultant appt?

I'm just trying not to think about what could go wrong. I decided I will limit my worrying to Thursday only. It's surprisingly worked! look at all the millions of people in this country; the billions on this planet - they were all babies once! It worked out ok all those billions of times for billions of mothers! It'll hopefully work out ok for us this time too xxx

You'll need to be vigilant for PND. Anxiety through pregnancy sets you up for it (happened to me too).

@JoJoSM2- thank you, yes will keep an eye on things. I’m pretty self aware and have no hesitation in seeking support if needed. I have midwife appt this week so will discuss things then.

@WildFlower2019- I know your absolutely right. I just can’t resist the urge to wrap myself up in cotton wool but I know that’s not reality. Just because were pregnant doesn’t mean we have a perfect stress free 9 months... I might allocate some “ worry time” as well, it’s actually a CBT technique 😊

I did until the 20w scan due to health scares after the 12w one. After that I settled in to pregnancy and enjoyed baby prep, buying things, sorting the nursery. I'm now 37 weeks and these next few weeks cannot go fast enough. Sooo uncomfortable!

I'm 11+2 today and feel the same! I think I will calm down once I've had my 12 week scan in 9 days... At least I hope I will!

Thanks @Kate3150 I always get nervous, even although we've had private scans you can never be 100% sure can you?

I’m exactly the same, after 3 years of ivf and 2 losses I’m wanting to just go to sleep and wake up when she’s here. I’m almost 16 weeks now and just wishing the 20 week scan to be here now and to feel movement for reassurance xx

@Summerloving17- it’s so hard isn’t it 💜. I actually had a dream last night the baby was here, then woke up and looked at my tiny tummy podge 😂. I just wonder if I’ll get to a point where I’ll feel “confident” in the pregnancy. Miscarriages are so cruel xx