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Bleeding

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LHMB · 27/05/2019 10:15

I'm 10 weeks tomorrow and just felt a gush, wiped and there was blood. I want to go to hospital and get checked out but DP says no as it's not heavy and there's no pain !

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DontPanic42 · 27/05/2019 10:29

Go, I would in the same situation, it's probably nothing, but it's always better to get it checked out.

MrsH497 · 27/05/2019 10:31

Go I would. I had no pain and no super heavy bleeding but sadly MC at 6.5 weeks. I couldn't get checked out as I was abroad but 100% go to EPU

RedPandaFluff · 27/05/2019 10:33

I would go to an early pregnancy unit, @LHMB - bleeding in early pregnancy is really common (I had it about 4 weeks ago and it was the scariest thing in the world, but everything turned out to be fine) but it's best to put your mind at rest. The stress of worrying whether everything is okay is terrible.

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LHMB · 27/05/2019 10:37

Thank you everyone, I don't drive so can't get there unless he takes me but he's saying no and that I'm panicking for nothing. Seeing blood is not nothing, I'm so worried. My first scan is 12th of June, terrified I won't make it if I don't get checked out

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Starlive23 · 27/05/2019 10:46

To echo PP, I would really go to EPU, it's definitely worth a look into, it could be nothing but it could be something and I really really urge you to show your bf these responses and get you there pronto.

DontPanic42 · 27/05/2019 10:47

He shouldn't get to make the decision OP, it's your body, if he is refusing to take, that is not a good sign, can you get public transport, a taxi or call a friend?

Just to add, two of my pregnancies had bleeding with no pain, one was absolutely fine and the other was ectopic, this is important.

Angelinthenightx · 27/05/2019 12:51

Any bleeding needs to be looked at ,also any bad pain, im 17wks & been in twice due to pain, its best to be looked at even with no pain ,best to be safe x

Holiday16 · 27/05/2019 13:58

I had this also. Mine was just the one gush of red blood and then turned to brown spotting for a few days following. I didn't go to get it checked. Instead I rang my midwife who assured me it was just baby getting comfy. Either way I would deffo get it either checked out or get advice from midwife.

Mine happened at 9 weeks and again and 12+5 weeks xx

Pinkvoid · 27/05/2019 14:03

Always get checked out. It can be something and nothing but could be sinister, it sadly was for me. Get a taxi if needs be.

RedPandaFluff · 27/05/2019 15:05

I'm shocked that your DP isn't taking you to the EPU and even more shocked that he thinks it's his decision to make.

Is there anyone else who can take you?

53rdWay · 27/05/2019 15:12

I would call EPU at the hospital and see what they say. Depending on where you live it might be a drop-in clinic or you might need an appointment, or a referral from your GP. I would not rely on your partner to decide whether it’s worth them seeing.

MrsH497 · 27/05/2019 19:37

@LHMB how are you? How's the bleeding? Hope you're ok

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LHMB · 27/05/2019 20:32

Thank you for all of your replies. I haven't had any more bleeding, i live quite a way from the hospital's so couldn't afford a taxi and had nobody else to take me. DP keeps saying I'm fine and it would be heavy and painful if there was a problem but I said he isn't a Dr or midwife so he doesn't know that. I'm still worried, I suffer from anxiety and depression too which is bad at the moment as I stopped my antidepressants when I found out I was pregnant, been off them 6 weeks now

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veeboo · 27/05/2019 20:34

@LHMB why dont you ring 111 tell them your symptoms and see what they advise? Your partner can't argue with that surely

MrsH497 · 27/05/2019 20:38

@LHMB sorry but your DP is totally wrong I had no pain and not heavy bleeding when I sadly miscarried he is not a DR and is quite honestly talking out of his backside.
Bleeding should be checked out call your midwife or 111

PrayingandHoping · 27/05/2019 20:52

At 10 weeks you should have a midwife by now? Phone her and ask for advise

Mine advised me that ALL bleeds would be referred for a scan. It shouldn't just be ignored

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LHMB · 28/05/2019 10:16

Thank you, I phoned the midwife and she said to wait for my first scan in 2 weeks. I phoned 111 who said to call the EPU. They told me they won't see you before 20 weeks. So I guess I just have to wait. I'm feeling really poorly today as well and extremely tired. Asked someone if they could take me to hospital so I can speak to a&e at least and she said no, there's nothing they would or could do and at this stage a miscarriage can't be prevented so I will just have to wait and see what happens at my scan on 12th June. My anxiety is sky high which is making me feel more poorly

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Starlive23 · 28/05/2019 15:30

The EPU is the Early pregnancy unit, not for after 20 weeks!! Just turn up at EPU OP and tell them. Say you are happy to wait but demand a scan they can do them no problem, I've never ever heard of such bullshit, my hospital will offer a reassurance scan for over 7 weeks if you have had a bleed, I'm astounded that they told you the EPU was for after 12 weeks. No wonder you feel so anxious OP, I'd be turning up there if it was me.

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LHMB · 28/05/2019 15:51

I phoned the early pregnancy unit and explained, she said this particular one won't see you under 20 weeks. I was very shocked and think this is disgraceful tbh. I live in a rural village with no public transport that goes as far as the hospital's, can't get anyone to take me. I called another midwife for some advice and she said that slight spotting is normal because of increased blood supply to the cervix and vagina. She said they wouldn't scan me unless I was bleeding heavily or in a lot of pain. Must be a particularly lapse area I'm living in

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PixieDust26 · 28/05/2019 15:56

That time is the worst. I also had bleeding at 11 weeks and it was bright red. I phoned the hospital and they wouldn't do anything either! So I feel your worry there. I did go for a private scan the same day if that is an option for you? I know they're expensive but defo worth it to ease your mind. Hope you're okay x

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LHMB · 28/05/2019 16:03

Thank you PixieDust26, it's ridiculous that some hospitals won't do anything. Unfortunately I can't afford a private scan otherwise I would definitely pay for one x

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53rdWay · 28/05/2019 18:26

Are you sure it was an EPU you were speaking to, not a standard maternity unit? Early pregnancy units are for early pregnancy, not post-20 weeks. If you want to keep trying that route, stick your postcode in here and see if there's anywhere else anywhere near you that can help: www.aepu.org.uk/find-a-unit/

Sadly whoever said that they won't be able to stop a miscarriage anyway was right. There isn't really anything anyone can do at this early stage. But it's horrible being in limbo and not knowing what's going on, and your DP doesn't seem very supportive of your feelings. I'm sorry you're going through this.

agteacht · 28/05/2019 18:50

@LHMB sorry to hear you are going through such a tough time.

Everyone is different so I also don't want to offer false hope but I've had some similar experiences and all turned out well.

I am 12+5 today and had spotting probably every second week since I found out I was pregnant.

At 10w I had a large red bleed with clots - sorry TMI. I went to A&E and didn't manage to get a scan until two days later - similar to your issues with the EPU - all was well and no explanation for the bleeding. I was convinced I was miscarrying as was having bad cramps too.

I had my 12w scan today and again all fine and baby measuring ahead of my dates.

So although it's terrifying if the bleeding was short lived and had stopped it could be just 'one of those things' in my experience. Best of luck though

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LHMB · 28/05/2019 19:15

Yes it was the EPU as I called the hospital and asked to be put through to the EPU, and I asked the woman if it was the EPU I was through to, she said yes and asked how many weeks I am. When I told her she said I'm afraid we don't see people under 20 weeks, go to A&E. I was disgusted.
Thank you for the link.

agteacht I'm so sorry you went through that terrifying experience and I'm really pleased all is okay

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HJWT · 28/05/2019 19:37

EPU ..... 20 weeks you should of asked her if she knew what early pregnancy was

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