Do I need DP there for booking appointment?

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What will they ask about family history etc?

They don’t usually want DPs there as they have to talk about any domestic violence. Maybe just ask DP for any family history before the appointment.

No you don't need him there as pp said just ask if there's any inherited diseases he knows of.
Mine has never been to any midwife appointments as he wouldn't be able to get that much time off and he's only been able to come to the standard two scans not all the extra ones I had to have.

Nope, I went alone. I think DP came to one outside of the scans. Definitely not needed.

My husband came but it was pointless - save his time off work (if he works) for scans!

No, it's a long dull appointment and you'll know anything relevant about immediate family history, I'd have thought? DP should come to scans only.

My DH came, but it wasn't particularly necessary. Just ask him if there are any genetic illnesses in the immediate family.
My booking in appointment was only half an hour because we flew through all of the questions. Then I did a urine sample and the nurse took blood.

If it means he's taking time off work, I wouldn't bother. If not, he might like to come to be involved

My dp came, the only plus side of him being there is I ended up going to hospital for scan straight after (13wks and it was only day that week they could fit me in). It is a very long and boring appointment- you seem to spend most of it watching mw write the same answer on multiple pages. Get personal and family medical history from dp eg allergies, heart problems, cancer, diabetes, any twins in family etc. Appear from that they will ask his name, dob, job, living arrangements and details if any previous children - all things you can answer

My dh came but he was already off work. If your partner needs to book time off tell him to save it for the scans instead

No, I don’t know anyone who has taken their DP to the booking appt, in fact it’d probably seem a bit weird to do so as the midwife will want to see you on your own to ask about domestic abuse and will have to find a creative way to see you on your own if he’s there.

What I did was just ask OH beforehand for a list of his family’s notable medical history and took that with me as they’ll ask about any history of certain illnesses on both sides.

I took mine. I just wanted him to be there even though i knew I'd be boring. I think he felt a little awkward though.

I had my 12 week scan at the same appointment as my booking one, so if my husband wasn't there he would have missed it. If you are having a separate appointment for that then it's probably not vital for him to be there. My husband did have some questions for the midwife so it was good for him to get those answered.

Mine is coming because he wants to. I've told him it'll be boring but he wants to come still.

No. It’s long and pretty boring. Just make sure you have a general sense of his medical history and that of his immediate family, especially any hereditary conditions.

We got the big booking sheet/form book to fill out before our appointment, and so I was able to ask DH questions about his medical history etc. The form we had had questions about whether certain conditions (including pre-eclampsia, miscarriage etc) had been experienced by blood relatives up to grandparent level, and he ended up having to call his mum to get the answers! Might be worth checking in with family about the usual big medical conditions eg diabetes, heart issues etc before the appt if your DP isn't sure about it.

You dont need to take DH. Mine came with me because it felt like an exciting first part of parenting and I wanted him to be as involved as possible but certainly no need to take time off work etc

No my husband did come to the one for my first pregnancy but was unnecessary and midwife pointed at the domestic violence question.
2nd pregnancy he didn't bother

No not at all I didn’t take mine to either but of course you can take him or someone else if you want to. If you don’t get form before hand just ask him about any medical problems in his family

First pregnancy and mine came with me.. when the GP booked me in for it and she said if he can come it can be useful. He was off work anyway so did and he found it useful and asked a few questions etc so I quite liked having him there.

The midwife measured height in the corridor and showed me where the loo was for the urine sample so asked the domestic violence question then.