When to tell?

[Ceb1986]

Hi,
Hoping someone can offer me some advice! My period was due last wed so by Friday I took a pregnancy test which came back positive! Even though me and partner are trying, it’s very early days so was extremely shocked! Took another one today (Sunday!) which also came back positive. We are over the moon but already within a day I hate that I’m caught up lying to my family- I’m supposed to be out to tonight and have had to make excuses about why I won’t be drinking tonight. My partner said it’s way too early to tell anyone, which I agree with, but I hate that I’m lying and also can’t share the news! He’s very relaxed about it all, whereas I just want to scream it out, especially to my mom and sisters! I’m also feeling quite alone it all, and it doesn’t feel real! Any one been in a similar situation? Any advice?

I would tell your mum & sister then tell everyone else after your 12wk scan x

I found out yesterday and I haven't even told my dp as he is away and want to wait until he gets back but I want to tell my ds, friends and dsis. I am going to wait until after my scan.

Congratulations

Personally I would tell one person at least. It was my mother in law who was in on the secret from early on for us. We said if anything was to go wrong or something wasn't right with the pregnancy it would be her we would go to for support so we told her. She kept it secret for us until after my scan and then we told close family ie-sister, sister in law, aunt, nan in law

Had I seen my sister I would of told her and my sister in law would have guessed as she knows me when I'm pregnant well and the sickness would have given it away. I did have to avoid them for weeks. Making excuses why I couldn't go places or see them. My sister lives far away so was easy enough to dodge her u know til I told her lol

Tell someone close to you who can be discreet. Then you can direct all your fuzzy pregnancy feelings towards them.

We told our parents after a couple of weeks. Then I told my boss after booking appointment because of needing time off. We're not telling anyone else until after the 12 week scan.

Thank you everyone. It’s difficult because the person who I most want to tell is my younger sister but I feel I couldn’t tell her and not my mom, and then I’d feel guilty about telling them both and not my older sister and sister in law. And then before you know it, it’s quite a lot of people!
12 weeks just seems so long too!! I think I might keep it a secret for a few weeks, and maybe tell really close family in about 8 weeks before I tell everyone else after scan. Does anyone else feel like it doesn’t feel real? Even though we’ve taken 2 pregnancy tests, I feel I want to go and buy more today to make sure! When does it start to feel real?

I found out I was pregnant at 3+5. On that day I told DH, SIL1 and BIL1 (SIL1 and I are very close, she was the one who knew we were trying, pretty much knew my cycle better than me so she would have known by me not telling her it was a negative test)

We then told PIL when I was 6 weeks, and SIL2 & BIL2 at 6+1.

I have no immediate family.

We told these people as they are the ones who would also know if anything did happen going forward. I'm 10 weeks today, and we'll be telling others after the 12 week scan. I am just avoiding people because I am the worst at keeping a secret!

Also, I tested every day from finding out until we went for an early scan at 6+6 🙄 I was too impatient to wait until the 12 week scan!

For me it didn't feel real until we had the scan, although I've had horrendous sickness since 5 weeks!

@Ceb1986 I told my mum and one of my sisters basically as soon as I found out. I then told my dad and his partner at about 8 weeks and none else until this weekend when I was nearly 13 weeks. Dont feel guilty about who you tell, this is your news remember its completely up to you on who you choose to tell. As with you I'm very close to my sister so i felt like i needed to tell her because i would need her support and i know there was no way i would have been able to keep it from her for long. When I told the rest of my siblings this weekend honnestly none cared, they were all just happy about the news. Do what's best you and what's going to support and comfort you most because trust me you need it x

Thank you everyone for your replies. I told my mom and sister today and feel so much better about it! It’s still such early days but it felt like a weight lifted.
Does anyone have any advice on surviving till their 12/13 week scan? It’s only been 4 days since I found out and I’m only 4 weeks gone and it doesn’t feel real- I’m worried I’m going to turn into a nervous wreck thinking about it for 8 weeks! I’m worried I’m going to spend all our savings doing daily pregnancy tests to convince myself it’s still happening