What they don't tell you about pregnancy

[Lilys19]

They don't tell you that your partner/husband won't understand how difficult it is physically and mentally about carrying something inside you so precious.

They don't tell you, that you will feel like a mad women and just be told it's your hormones. They don't tell you that every argument will be because your being irrational because of your hormones.

They don't tell you it's a 9 month sentence until you finally know if you have given birth to a healthy baby.

They don't tell you that your partner/ husbands will never understand the process and it will make you feel so incredibly lonely you question if it's all worth it.

They don't tell you that life long wish of a baby and pregnancy will be the hardest battle you ever face.

@VaselineOnToast I hear you on that one lol

No one tells you that people think it's acceptable to discuss your stomach at every opportunity (and keep drawing attention to it) even though my bump is tiny and my baby is growing small! Sometimes I don't want to discuss it with everyone!

@VaselineOnToast OMG amen sister, the heartburn is ruining my life 😂😂

That people feel it’s acceptable to comment on your size “ohh your bump is getting so big” lol well I am 8 months pregnant with my third what do you expect 🤔.

That loads of people have an opinion on your precious unborn babies sex comments have ranged from “You must be so disappointed it’s a boy you were desperate for a girl” instead of congratulations when I found out my first baby was a boy which I was delighted about 😡.

On finding out second baby was a boy “ohh you can always try for a girl” or “You will get your girl next time” hhhmm actually I was delighted baby was a boy as I had hoped for another boy.

Third pregnancy which was a surprise but a happy one “ Ohh so you were trying for a girl” actually I wasn’t trying at all lol.. “ Ohh if it’s a girl it will complete your family” hhhmm I didn’t think my family was incomplete and the sex of the baby won’t make my feel any less complete as we are happy with what we get. On finding out baby was another boy which again we were delighted about “Ohh will you try again for a girl” or “ Ohh you can try again for a girl next time”.. Nope I don’t want anymore kids nor will my health take another pregnancy.

These comments have come from strangers as well as people that know ds2 was a very ill baby and we could have lost him. Many also know I am now having serious complications with my third pregnancy so baby is high risk again and unlikely to go full term. It still shocks me the comments people feel are acceptable to make about my much loved babies.

I didn't have any of those problems, Lilys, feel sorry for you if you do. Neither did I have a black, swollen vagina afterwards, my main problem postnatally was terrible tiredness and that passed eventually. I shudder when I read what some women have gone through at what should have been a joyful time.

Hope things improve .

I think it's really unfair that women are being told that we have mental health issues just because our pregnancy isn't a bed of roses!

I totally agree. Being 29 weeks op, with everything you’ve said.

They also don’t tell you that people will stop to tell you their horrible birth stories and feel the need to give you unwanted advice.

That it may never happen again - had I known I would suffer from secondary infertility and recurrent loss after DC1 I would have cherished every moment of those 9 months a lot more than I did

Bythebeach
Currently pregnant, very excited but also quite wary at the moment as it's taken many years to conceive (hence my grumble that SRE in schools pushes the 'you will fall pregnant instantly' line to scare teenagers but on reflection I think it made fertility struggles more difficult)
I've got my booking app and am going to talk to the midwife and see if I can get an early scan too as I'm terrified it's going to end negatively.