I'm really scared I don't actually want kids and ill be a terrible mother

[Cosmogirl86]

I guess lm just having a melt down. I'm having twins in August. I am terrified today. I don't know how I'll cope. I'm worried I won't be able to go back to work. I'm scared I'll resent them because I can't go on holiday or nights out with husband. I wanted these children so badly, we tried for five years and now I'm scared it's a terrible mistake

Any woman who is pregnant who says she didn't feel like you at least once during her pregnancy is a liar! Its a normal feeling. Talk about it with your husband and get it all out.
I struggled to have my first baby and felt like you when I was pregnant. And again with my second!
And life is now wonderful because I have two amazing children, and I also get nights out with my husband and time for myself. Maybe not the first few months but then it will all settle down I promise.

Youre going to be a great mother. Its normal to be scared, especially with twins! You will settle into a routine and life will be lovely. Maybe not the same as now but it will be a new kind of amazing.
You should treat yourself to something nice today, and take it easy💕

I'm pregnant as well and I feel like this at least once a week.
I'll see a friend who has kids and be so excited to meet my little girl, then I'll see a single friend who is free to do whatever they want and I feel scared and regretful.
I just assume it's normal though, you do essentially have to say goodbye to the way life has been because it will never be like that again.

It's entirely normal, but you'll be absolutely fine. There's no going back now anyway so don't worry about it
Try and enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can, rest, read, buy all the lovely tiny things your heart desires and do some research about parenting newborns. Don't give the birth a second thought.
You've got this

Thank you so much. I just hate feeling ungrateful because I do want these babies. I really hope I'll manage

32 weeks after a miscarriage a year ago and I rang my parents yesterday to tell them I'd made a terrible mistake and didn't know how on earth I was going to manage - also had the same conversation with my DH who assures me everything will be ok once she's here! Pregnancy is terrifying and must be even more so when you have two on the way, but remember what comes next is unknown and that's always worrying. You will work things out and find your routines. Don't beat yourself over having these feelings, it's completely normal from everyone I've spoken to. If it feels overwhelming and you think you may have antenatal depression/anxiety, reach out to your midwife and ask for support. Most importantly, be kind to yourself!

@Cosmogirl86 I 100% get it, we planned this baby and iv had a couple of moments of 'why did I do this' thinking we have the perfect family with DD etc, but I just know when I meet him I will love him just as much as his sister and now I cant wait to meet him! You will be fine 💙

Hey all.

I can relate to this i have just found out im approx 5 weeks and extremely conflicted.. iv just been offered a job which i really really need and want! We didnt plan on it happening right now but feel bad for having these thoughts about regrets and am so angry at myself for not being more careful. I know i should be grateful and i am but im feeling really negative and not ready for this...