Gender Reveals/ disappointment

[Ricoetbello]

So I was watching some gender reveals and noticed that when the baby was a girl most people are disappointed, especially the dads. But when it was a boy everyone would scream and cheer...

one girl said "he does t want a daughter" which was kinda sad (it was a girl)

I understand that men want their name to carry on and all that but that's not always guaranteed nowadays as some people dont change their names.

Have you ever had gender disappointment with your baby?

So I was watching some gender reveals

Is that a hobby?

Was unaware gender disappointment was a thing.

Yer I've seen a lot of these like the videos on Facebook an I think it's horrible but when u have in ur head what u really won't and it's the other people get disappointed

There are enough threads on here to know it's a real thing. I fucking despise gender preference. Just be grateful for a lovely baby, regardless on what's between its legs . Completely unfair to be disappointed in a child in something is has absolutely new control over.

We aren't disappointed with the gender of our baby that's on the way at all, but I just wanted to say it's not always the case that the dad wants a boy... my DH was really hoping for a little girl for our first, but he was still so ridiculously happy when we found out it was a boy. Since we found out, I can't imagine him being anything else even though I'd always wanted a girl before.

I don't think there's anything wrong with having a preference to be honest, even if it is out of our control. But we can't help how we feel sometimes. I understand some people feel disappointment, but we are both just happy to be having a healthy baby and grateful of course. And I don't think the disappointment is in the child itself, it's just a general disappointment.

I always thought I would have a girl, but am having a boy. I was not disappointed though!

However I think if people are really set on a sex then they should be wiser than having a public gender reveal and then showing a disappointment as there are so many people who struggle to conceive, it must feel like a slap in the face to them when some moron is visbly disappointed to see the sex!

If you know there's a potential for gender disappointment then why on earth would you go through the rigmarole of doing a big gender reveal? Seems very cruel on the child if they happen to see the video in retrospect.

My DH and I have a DD and I am currently pregnant with a DS! It took a while for my DH to get his head around having a son! I think we would of both 'preferred' another girl as it would of been a lot easier (clothes,toys & extra bedroom etc) but now both excited to meet our son and eventually move house 😁😂 not all men want to have a son instead of a daughter xx

How can you possibly know what they are feeling when they hear that news?

I couldn’t care less the gender of someone else’s baby so do not see the point of these things. After two boys my husband was hoping for a girl (he also had 5 brothers and four nephews - everyone was hoping it was a girl in the family). Scan said boy and he just said ‘there’s always next time’! Sure enough we managed it the next time!
My first I didn’t care. After that I wanted one of the other sex - it didn’t matter which order it happened.

I never understand why people do gender reveals with a preference. Although I do think sometimes shock when your convinced your right can look the same as disappointment. I was convinced we were having a little girl so much so I asked them to double check at a follow up scan and probably came across disappointed for asking but i wasn’t at all. More embarrassment I had been so unbelievably convinced that I told everyone else they were wrong thanks to the nub theory. I even managed to convince dh I was 100% right

I think this is an American tradition we can do without, along with the baby shower. I find both tacky and unnecessary.

I am expecting identical twins after five years of trying, ivf and losses. I couldn't care less what sex they are!