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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

8 weeks pregnant. So worried - am I still pregnant, was I ever?!

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yelyahyoung · 19/05/2019 23:39

Hi everyoneSmile. I finally signed up to mumsnet so I can actually start posting instead of just ghosting!
I really need some lovin and some good opinions, please feel free to share your stories x
This is my 1st pregnancy. I have had 2 miscarriages before, both before 8 weeks. But I feel different this time, in a good way, and I do feel very pregnant!
So... my partner and I recently came to learn that I was 6-7 weeks pregnant. I am now 8 weeks and 4 days. I first had suspicions about being pregnant because I was feeling so sick (and actually throwing up!) and feeling so totally exhausted, and had missed a period. I also got some spotting, and it was nothing like a period. It didn’t even last a day, was barely anything, and there was no pain. I’ve also been experiencing awful tastes with food, and I am so insanely emotional! So I took a pregnancy test and sure enough, I had a line. However it was the faintest of the faintest faint. But it was there. So I took more and more until I didn’t have to dismantle the tests anymore (LOL) until I ended up with 5 solid positives of different brands. These results never got dark though. So I made an appointment with the doctor to confirm this for me as I didn’t believe it due to the lines being so faint. I went in and they told me to come back a week later with my urine simple. So I did, and 4 days later my test result came back. It was negative. Eh? What? I was devastated, but something was telling me that I had to test again. My partner suggested that I did so we drove to get some more and I did a test when I got home. It was a real faint positive. I did the other one the next day, as soon as I woke up. It was the same. At this point I already had my first booking appointment with the midwife so I did another 2 tests and they were fainter but still there.
I explained my situation and everything that had happened with the tests with my midwife and her opinion was that she could pretty much guarantee that I was pregnant and to carry on as if I was. And that the first scan will be booked for 5 weeks time. She really reassured me about everything and I started to feel like I could be excited.
I try to relax about things and do just what she says. Until yesterday morning when I got a bit of spotting. Which then turned into a big gush of blood, followed by awful cramps. This only lasted a couple of hours and then my pain went and so did the blood. I had nothing all day after that until the early hours of the next morning (today, Sunday) and have had on and off bleeding all day. It’s not heavy and it’s not even enough to fill a pad. It’s only when I wipe. But it is red blood. Well, it was. Now it’s just kinda pinky red. Sorry TMI, but these things need to be said haha.
So I didn’t call my midwife, I just decided to keep an eye on the bleeding in case it was just my period. Because even though it’s been 2 months that I haven’t had one, it’s still 2 days before it would be due. Instead, I went to the hospital later yesterday evening after spending the whole day thinking about it lol. My partner and I waited for an hour to be seen, to be told they can’t scan me as they don’t have the facilities there to do so (huh? what?) and that if I waited to see a doctor they would refer me for a scan for the following day or Monday. The estimated waiting time was 3-4 hours and as it was already 10:30pm, we decided to go home and call the midwife. Annoying.
I’m still waiting for some advice but hopefully I can get a scan and see what’s going on. However I am still in two minds about getting a scan. My feelings are basically these: I want a scan to see if there’s actually a baby in there and hopefully everything is all well and good, but I am terrified to find out that I’ve either miscarried, or there wasn’t even a little bean of our own to start with. It’s so distressing. My mum, may I add, suffered from the same during the entire pregnancy of my brother. She bled loads. She also bled on the 7th week of my sisters pregnancy too. I may have a chance with that??
Sorry for the huge post. Thanks for reading if you’ve got this far! Please help ladies - thank you xxx

P.s. can sex cause any discomfort and bleeding? We actually had sex the night before the bleeding started. I’m wondering if that could have contributed? I know they say sex is safe during pregnancy, but we did proper go for it... GrinBlush LOL

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kkl1 · 20/05/2019 00:02

Hey didn't wonna read and run yes is early pregnancy bleeding can happen with sex I had a massive bleed just before I got bnp and I am now 12weeks I would defo go for the scan it will let you no either way and that is what u need as waiting till ur 12 week scan will just be a big worry good luck to you tho xx

yelyahyoung · 20/05/2019 00:05

Just to add... I am always super regular. The first day of my last period was 20/03/19. It is now 20/05/19. The bleeding has now stopped but is brown when I wipe. No fresh red blood. So basically a gush of blood and pain, then no pain with a day of on and off bleeding, and now nothing. Not sure what to think?! X

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yelyahyoung · 20/05/2019 00:07

thank you kkl1. Happy to hear you got your BFP and everything is going well, even after having a bleed! It’s good to hear a similar situation. Thanks. X

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Joopy · 20/05/2019 00:10

I think for your well-being you need to have a scan, go to your GP and they can refer you. Flowers

Wannabeyorkshirelass · 20/05/2019 00:41

I'm so sorry to say this because I really hope I'm wrong, but it sounds like what's called a missed miscarriage. It means the pregnancy hasn't continued but you didn't miscarry straight away. That's why the doctor test was negative and why the ones you took after that were very faint, because the hormone was decreasing rather than increasing as it should. There may not be a lot of bleeding as the pregnancy may have ended quite early. I'm very surprised at the midwife.

Neverbroken · 20/05/2019 01:27

True I didn’t even think about that @Wannabeyorkshirelass sounds right. My mmc was caught on a scan and surgically managed before my body rejected at 9+ weeks. But considering you would have been 7 weeks I wouldn’t think the line would be faint, at 5 weeks with this pregnancy I had a strong line. Even in my last pregnancy the line was strong so I find that odd. What test did you use? Sex in pregnancy doesn’t have anything to do with it I think I’ve had loads of sex (hormones) and masturbated quite a bit too Blush and have had no bleeding. However with my last pregnancy I did spot throughout. Only pink when I wiped.

Just wait for scan all may be fine because you don’t mention passing clots or anything. Fingers crossed for you xx

RedPandaFluff · 20/05/2019 01:27

@yelyahyoung I'm so sorry but I think it might be as @Wannabeyorkshirelass has said - have you heard the term 'chemical pregnancy'?

I'm glad you have a scan arranged because that's the only way to know for sure (we can only speculate which isn't the most productive or helpful thing to do, but it's hard to scroll on and not reply to worried posters).

I hope you get some answers soon 💐

PrayingandHoping · 20/05/2019 07:44

Op I would suggest going for a scan and putting your mind at ease either way. If sadly you have MC, that will be your 3rd and you can ask your doctor to a referral to the recurrent MC clinic. So it is worth medically confirming it

I had 2 big red bleeds at 9 weeks and scanned all ok though so don't give up! And yes sex can irritate the cervix and cause bleeding

maria2bela · 20/05/2019 07:56

I would pay for a private scan just to know what's going on. Yes bleeding can happen in early pregnancy but could also be a sign of miscarriage, unfortunately you won't know until you're scanned. Do you have any pics of your pregnancy tests so we can have a look and see if they look fainter than normal? Have you taken another test since the bleeding?

You could also request a blood test from doctor to check levels of hog in your system

RedPandaFluff · 20/05/2019 08:32

Oh sorry @yelyahyoung - I misread, I thought you had a scan lined up for today. 1.30am fuzzy brain! I echo PPs - get yourself in for a scan either at your nearest early pregnancy unit or privately. Good luck 💐

yelyahyoung · 20/05/2019 17:46

Thanks so much for your posts everyone. Certainly something to think about. I so hope that MMC isn’t what’s is happening hereSad but of course I am preparing for the worst.
I have a scan booked for tomorrow morning now. I will post my results here just in case someone else is in the same situation as me and it will help them.
And yes, I have pictures of my tests but I can’t figure out how to attach a photo on here?! Lol!
Thanks for the luck, I really need it! X

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Tropicana1 · 20/05/2019 17:54

@yelyahyoung good luck with the scan tomorrow. I don't have anything to add from what the others have said really, only that unfortunately a positive test getting lighter rather than darker is often a sign of pregnancy loss. I really hope this isn't the case for you but definitely think the scan is the only way to go. If you are 8 weeks they should definitely see baby and a heartbeat if all is well

yelyahyoung · 20/05/2019 19:18

And no, I haven’t passed any clots. Barely any bleeding at all apart from that one gush on Saturday morning. And the bleeding has stopped altogether today, with only the occasional ‘brown discharge’ when I wipe. So maybe no miscarriage? Could be suffering an MMC still but it’s just the fact I haven’t passed any tissue or clots or anything. I really don’t know what to think...!
We will only find out for sure tomorrow from the scan.
Thanks so much for all your info ladies.

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Tropicana1 · 21/05/2019 18:38

Hey @yelyahyoung how did your scan go today? Thinking of you

yelyahyoung · 21/05/2019 22:02

Hi! So they did an internal scan (never had one of those before, new experience for me!) and really unfortunately I had had a very early miscarriage. We are pretty gutted but it is what it isSad. We didn’t plan our pregnancy for just yet but grew to absolutely adore the idea. So we have decided that I won’t take my pill anymore and see if nature takes its course. We hope it will happen when the time is right.
Thanks ladies x

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Neverbroken · 21/05/2019 22:34

I’m sorry ❤️ Because you said no clots I still had hope the important thing is you can try again. My last pregnancy devastated me but less than two years on here I am 18 weeks so don’t be discouraged x

yelyahyoung · 21/05/2019 23:19

Thanks so much @Neverbroken xx

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