Good morning.
I'm looking for some help on my situation. And whether I am clinging onto very little hope or even absolutely nothing.
The main problem is I'm still not over my ex.
We were together for three years. And we broke up 3 months ago and the last contact we had six weeks ago.
We broke up because things started to get frustrating between us. I think both of us took the relationship a little for granted and eventually she stopped being as 'in to me' Imwould ask to do things and she would either change days around or she would be busy. This would frustrate me and when I asked her about it and told her how I felt she would get upset and take the blame herself. She would twll me this and then I would feel bad for upsetting her and end up apologising. I was fearful of saying anything after a while because I was afraid of upsetting her. It was the last thing I wanted to do but I'm afraid I think my frustration got taken the wrong way and she thought I was just blaming her for everything. I wasn't. She told me late last year she wasn't sure if she was happy anymore but when I asked if she wanted to carry on she could not give an answer. I even gave her space away to think and she still didn't know. When I tried to talk face to face she would tell me not to worry, however I could tell things weren't right and even when we were together, she would not talk very much and just seem uninterested. I even caught her pulling faces whilst I was trying to make conversation a couple of times. Eventually after trying and trying to see her and make things work we broke up after she said we can't carry on like we are. I felt I could not do any more. And ultimately we both decided to stop, however I didn't want to but could not see any other way around it, if we both weren't going to work at it.
That was three months ago. I still love this girl a lot. I'm still feeling the pain of breaking up an dmkss her everyday. She really did make an impression on me. After we broke up we have talked a few times and i told her I still care about her and miss her. I asked if we could 'try again' to this she told me she doesn't know. And that she can't give me an answer at the moment? I replied to her saying that I understand and that it has to feel right for her. She has deliberately ignored that message and not read it. That was six weeks ago now and it's still left unopened.
We are still connected on social media, still have eachothers pics on our profiles etc. She seems to be posting very happily, lots of selfies etc. She still posts pics and in some Shen is wearing things I bought her as gifts which is nice.
I'm trying my best to move on but I'm struggling. Am I safety to assume she doesn't want anything to do with me? I haven't contacted her since she has ignored me and I think that is the correct thing to do? I don't want to nag if she is totally over me and wants nothing to do with me.