So scared for 20 week anomaly scan after t21 baby

[Angel2018]

I’m not sure what I’m expecting from posting this maybe some reassurance or a hand hold.
After my tfmr last year for t21 this pregnancy has been full of anxiousness, worry, nervousness......
I was petrified before my dating scan as I had it in my head something was wrong but luckily everything was ok and my combined test came back low risk for the major chromosome abnormalities but now I’ve convinced myself something will be spotted in my 20 week scan and it’s terrifying me.
Need to hear some positive stories from you ladies to help with my nerves.

Oh you poor thing. I know exactly how you feel. I had a TFMR at 21 weeks in January and am now pregnant again and terrified. I'm really sorry i don't have a positive outcome to share with you. How far along are you? Would a NIPT be an option for you to give reassurance?

I also don't have any advice I'm afraid, but I'm really worried too. I had a TFMR 9 weeks ago (12 weeks pregnant) and caught again almost instantly - I'm around 6 weeks pregnant again now. I'm absolutely terrified of losing another, especially as its all still recent and raw.

Wishing you a healthy and happy rest of your pregnancy, when is your 20 week scan?

I had a tfmr due to a fatal abnormality picked up at 20 weeks , this was around three years ago. I then got pregnant again six months later.

It was a stressful pregnancy due to what had gone before , but everything was fine. We now have an 18m old.

My advice would be to give yourself a break op , the way you are feeling is completely normal but extremely hard to handle. I found that giving myself short term goals was helpful , such as "it's the anomaly scan next week , I will look that far forward" etc. I didn't think about the birth until I was 36 weeks because I had to break it all down!

I also found that finding out the sex of our baby was a lovely distraction. We didn't find out with any of the others so this was a lovely new experience that helped us look forward and be positive.

Keep talking op , and keep posting.

After reading through your comments I realised you all have food references in your names put a smile on my face.

I am 18+5 and my scan is next Friday. I was going to have a private scan but decided against it as my nerves got the better of me.
It’s such a shit situation to be in but from what I’ve read it’s very common to feel this way after a baby loss.
Sorry to hear you’ve all been in this situation yourselves it was the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make in my life and one that will haunt me forever. It’s like I believe the feeling I’m having is a punishment for what I did.
I just want to get passed the 20 week scan with hopefully positive outcome then maybe I will relax a bit.
Thank you ladies x

Please try to be kind to yourself. It is such a horrendous decision to have to make, but I truly believe it was the kindest option. My husband and I viewed it that were taking the suffering so that our son wouldn't have to.