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Anyone else being annoyed by their Mother and/or MIL?

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BackToDecember · 14/05/2019 18:30

This is my second pregnancy, I'm full of anxiety. I've been struggling with my mental health again but the prescription I was given seems to be helping now. Unfortunately it hasn't made my Mother and MIL any more tolerable. They are both annoying me greatly and daily.

Due to an inherited condition affecting pregnancy we won't know if our baby is healthy and will live or not until after we get CVS testing done. This condition is known to both of them and one of them was affected by it as well, both have had miscarriages, yet they are acting like the baby is a done deal, time to celebrate. Hmm

We're not even celebrating yet, so what gives them the right to? Time to celebrate is when they tell us our baby is definitely healthy, it's not celebration time when I worry every time I go to the bathroom I'll see bright red blood and that will be the beginning of the end.

Talking to them about how I feel won't actually help, one of them won't get it and if the other one didn't learn from her own experience then nothing I say will change her.

Everything they say grates on me right now, maybe it's hormones? I can't be the only one feeling this way though, just a quiet urge to tell their Mum or MIL to STFU. Halo

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Andrea91 · 14/05/2019 18:56

I do tell mother to keep her opinions to herself.i have medical issues struggled with un past she was with me and knows how bad it can get. But when she starts i just say I'm doing my best to hold it together and your not helping. I know different situation.

flumpybear · 14/05/2019 19:01

My sympathies for both your anxieties and your rubbish MIL
There's no excuse, she, and everyone else should respect you, your DH and your needs at this time.

Personally I'd tell her if she can't then she's not going to know about any pregnancy until as late as possible
Good luck and I really hope all is ok Thanks

Cosmogirl86 · 14/05/2019 19:12

Every. Fucking. Day.

I love my mum. We are close, she is never usually annoying and we speak regularly. She calls all the time now, mainly to tell me that she thinks I can't cope with twins and I shouldn't breast feed
Multiple times a week.

My MIL is also very kind and attentive but she has taken to phoning every day to give "advice"

bobble53 · 14/05/2019 19:25

We are holding out to tell my partners mother until as late as possible. I don’t get on with her anyway and she will smother me/baby as soon as she finds out. Easier to not tell her!

BackToDecember · 14/05/2019 19:50

I should have waited to tell them but they weren't like this when I was pregnant with our daughter. It's like they think because that one worked out this one will too. Even though that makes zero sense. Confused

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Teddybear45 · 14/05/2019 19:54

Mum and Mil tend to call each other about us with mum then feeding back the various bits of advice. They haven’t done this yet re the pregnancy because it’s early days and really high risk but I can sense it’s coming.

ChrisPrattsFace · 14/05/2019 20:05

Oh I’m there.
My mum is my best friend but I do debate locking her in the garage so I can’t hear her opinions sometimes.
Same goes for MIL. (Although the basement would suit her better)

allfurcoatnoknickers · 14/05/2019 20:10

Oh I am ready to MURDER my mother, and my ex-step-MIL and my current step-MIL (FIL is a serial philanderer).

My mother and step-MIL will not stop telling me all the ways I'm going to hurt/kill the baby.

My mother's latest gem: I can't have a baby while living in the city, because traffic fumes will cause the baby to have an asthma attack and DIE.

My current step-MIL's most recent: I can't exercise and breast feed, because it'll make my breast milk go bad, the baby will refuse it, and the baby will starve. Implication being that I'm so vain for wanting to lose the baby weight, that I'd happily kill my baby.

Ex-step-MIL: Treats me like I'm going to break - as in telling me to be careful going upstairs or crossing roads because of my "precious cargo". Also keeps saying she hopes we're having a pretty princess so she can buy princess outfits. Joke's on you bitch, it's a boy.

BackToDecember · 14/05/2019 20:49

It's nice to not be alone even if we're all suffering, we're doing it together.

@Teddybear45

Oh gawd it's now occurred to me that since they're FB friends this time and have now met in person I might have this coming too.

Although they currently seem to be consumed with petty jealousy regarding DD and I just want to smack them both. 🙈

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