To wonder if it's all worth it?

[Marghe87]

Was reading a few threads on this forum and some made me smile and think.
We obsess so much whilst looking for a pregnancy. Tracking ovulation, measuring temperature etc and being upset by BFN at the end of the month.
Then baby finally arrives and we are utterly exhausted, in need for "me" time, sometimes depressed. They grow up and go to school and things get even more complicated with people complaining they don't have time to manage it all, have to give up several aspects of their lives, relationship with DP becomes less exciting etc...
All of this just makes me wonder. Is it possible many people over dramatize this or simply can't cope? Or is it inevitable to go through stress and some sort of anxiety at every stage of life? It just seems that regardless of the direction our lives take, we are always unhappy.
Isn't this sad? What is your experience?

I'm in the TTC stage, hence why I am wondering about this.

We had our ds 5 years ago.
After he was born, we had less time together as a couple, less opportunity to do things on our own and our relationship did struggle.
But we had a baby that we suddenly loved unconditionally and he loved us back. You become the baby's world. When you go back to work and get back in the evening to collect the child after a long day, they come running up to you with a huge smile and a big hug and kiss, there isn't anything better.
Our ds has autism which has been very hard at times, but no way would I change him for the world.
Me and dp adjusted to the change and got on better than ever, we could have given up on each other but chose not to.
Were expecting our second boy shortly and I do have a slight fear of things being difficult again, but we have faced this together before so I'm positive that it won't be so hard this time.

@ Cantthinkofausername1990

Absolutely worth it, I’ve just had my 3rd. I wouldn’t have had 3 if it didn’t feel worth it!

Us humans don't seem to do too well if there nothing to be concerning ourselves with.

I loved my DP in our early days and the thought of having a child scared me. What would happen to us? Us was awesome and we had loads of great times.

We had DD over 2 years ago and as PP said, it's tough but we're a team. We've added one more and have a 4th DD joining us soon. We go to soft play and nursery and parties and it's okay. I know we will get our time back. We've been lucky to have a sleeper so we have evening together to relax and be a couple again.

It all shifts and one problem merges into another. As long as you all feel like you're in it together, esp you and DP/H then it can make things much easier.

I'm still nervous about number 2 joining us though! But we will wing it like we did before. Literally billions of people have done this before.

I was in the TTC stage for 3 years, we had ivf after finding out DH has low motility and low sperm count.

TTC was horrible and I felt like a failure, IVF wasn't any easier and there was a time I decided I couldn't carry on with it after my first failed ivf.

I had a break, a much needed break and then got back into it. I'd say keep going, it's easier said than done. I knew I had to keep trying, but it's up to you. We're all different.

I understand the stress it has on your relationship, make time for each other and enjoy the little things

I think it's something many of us think. One thing I would say, is imagine if you never tried? How do you feel then?

You could say the same about any deep and meaningful relationship. If you have that with your dp, imagine it with your child.