Please talk me out of trying for No. 3

[golds]

Well, I have a dd (nearly 7) and ds (4) both are at school and I have lots and lots of time on my hands.

I work 2 evenings a week at a job I enjoy, Ive just joined the Gym and I'm enjoying jaccuzi's etc, just about to go into town for a mooch and might get my hair done. Sounds like a nice life eh ?, the kind of life I was looking forward to, yes well so far, I have enjoyed my freedom, but I am so broody.

Is having another one, going to fulfill my life, after all I will be spending all my time concentrating on a newborn giving it the attention my dd had.

All the questions that I answer in my head say, you don't need another one, go and get yourself a job etc etc., but I just can't stop thinking about a 3rd child, we did decide to try back in Feb, but gave up really quickly as I thought I may regret it as I was looking forward to the 'freedom', now that its here, I just don't know what to do.

Has anyone been in the same situation? has it been the best thing ever having another, or should I just get myself a cat and call it the name I have already choosen for my imaginary child.

Decisions, decisions

golds, yeah I did say that ... I was trying to help though.
In truth, I haven't loved being pg and can't wait for Boo to get here!

I know you were trying to help even the pain of labour seems a bit of a distant memory, however I remember pleading with dh after ds was born, to never let me go through that again.

I know I want another one and can see all the hassle that may come with it, as I have got 2 vitually self sufficent children - it will be quite a shock, I will have to give it very serious thought, I almost wish it could happen as a accident, then I wouldn't have to plan it.

I'm in same situation! Go and visit a friend with a new born if you want another baby - I held my friend's 12 hour old last week and it made me go very wobbly. Then, come round here and spend the last couple of hours of the day with my DSs - that should put you off

Well thats my problem I think, my best friend has a 3 month old son and he is a dream, I don't want another child until I visit her, she changes my mind completely, he is so happy and she just looks so content, her other two kids are the same age as mine and they adore him too.

Within half an hour of coming home to my mad two I change my mind again, I think its the dream of looking so fulfilled and happy, the way she does that appeals.

Thanks for the offer, but I think I will pass on that one

I am pregnant with no3 golds and it is as exciting as the 1st time, but I will say this pregnancy is a lot harder than the other 2, more demanding on your body!

I did get alot of 'oh you already have a boy and a girl, why do you want another, my reply is we feel there is room for one more character in our lives. It just felt right IYSWIM

I can't wait to snuggle and kiss our newborn!

My other 2 are 5.5 and 2.5, so it is quite hard work, but you will be able to put your feet up and relax while your 2 are at school, so my advice is GO FOR IT!!!!

not got time to read but i'd say if you really want one, then have one. It'll knaw away at you if you don't.
my experience - my 3rd pg was just as easy if not the easiest, and while I adore all of them, my 3rd baby is just so wonderful - I can't imagine what I'd do without him. My life would be poorer.

there'll always be reasons not to, you've just gotta go with gut feelings. good luck. it can really do yuor head in. is dh supportive?

no time to write but I adore having three! Go for it - you can always have freedom later. Mine are 4 2 and 0 so have no time to do anything but I love it . Doesn't mean I'm not demon shouty mother though, I should add

Hi Golds, I'm pregnant with no.3 and I have a DS who's 3 and DD who's 18mos. It's really exhausing but I'm really excited. What upset me was other people's reactions - generally of horror - to the news. Stuff 'em. Now I've got a big bump they all seem quite excited too. I had a really bad pregnancy with DD and this one's been pretty similar with lots of throwing up etc. But despite that I think we'll stick to the plan of 4...! I think! Although the car issue is a problem.. Anyway, go with your heart. We planned a bigger age gap, but there you go.