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sterilisation? yes or no.

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Mumoftwox · 10/05/2019 12:16

well am 37 weeks pregnant have had 2 really bad pregnancies previous and my health is hugely at risk when pregnant (mixed connective tissue disease) (anti ro antibodies). It has been suggested I can have my tubes tied when I get a c section in 2 weeks. I have been with my partner for 8 years and this is our third baby, we really don't want anymore after and dont want to risk getting pregnant again however I still feel anxious about making this life changing decision anyone any advice?

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Stormwhale · 10/05/2019 12:21

Can I ask what your connective tissue disease is? I have ehlers danlos syndrome and I would like to be stabilised when I have my c section but im not sure if they will do it.

If you are sure you are done having children then go for it. I never want to go through a pregnancy like this again. It has been hell and my body cannot cope with pregnancy. I will have 2 children once this one is born and I dont want any more.

Stormwhale · 10/05/2019 12:21

Sterilised not stabilised.

Flamingosnbears · 10/05/2019 12:30

Not something I would choose it's so final but if that's what you want and your 100% then go for it if there is any doubts don't do it. Talk it through with your gp.

minisoksmakehardwork · 10/05/2019 12:38

My understanding was sterilisation done at the same time as a c section had a higher chance of reversing at la later date due to all the changes which take place in pregnancy.

Personally if you are not sure about the permanence, wait until after and reconsider when your hormones are less all over the place.

ahtellthee · 10/05/2019 12:39

Its a very personal decision, and if you have the slightest hesitation, don't do it.

I refused with my third, but took them up on the offer with my fourth.

I have found it a liberating experience, our sex life is booming again but I was very ready to stop having children (plus the doctor really didn't recommend any more after 4 c-sections).

minisoksmakehardwork · 10/05/2019 12:48

Btw I have been sterilised, when my youngest were about 18 months old. After they arrived it took a few weeks but I knew we were done.

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Mumoftwox · 10/05/2019 12:49

thanks everyone. @StormWhale I have lupus, sjogrens syndrome and rheumatoid arthritis. I think they would do it especially if you have high risk pregnancies xx

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MumUnderTheMoon · 10/05/2019 12:52

I have a chronic illness and my dd has complex needs so I have decided to stop at one. I would like to be sterilised but because of my age and the fact that I'm single they won't do it incase I change my mind. As a result I have been celibate for almost 8 years. If you have decided that your family is complete then go for it, you might look back later and think maybe we could have managed one more but is that going to take the shine off your lovely family? I wouldn't think so.

Teddybear45 · 10/05/2019 13:11

Honestly I think you probably should as your family seems to be complete. But wait until after the hormones of your pregnancy have died down; you definitely need a clear head to make this decision.

cookiechomper · 10/05/2019 13:15

If you think you're seriously going to regret it then dont. I had it done at 29 after 4 babies. Mine was a health decision as I didn't fancy a 5th c section as it was affecting my body and I felt our family was complete.
It was suggested after my 3rd pregnancy but I said no as I knew I wasn't finished with pregnancy and babies, but after 4 I felt so ready for it.

Aquamarine1029 · 10/05/2019 13:18

I got my tubes tied many years ago and I think it was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

octonoughtcake3 · 10/05/2019 13:22

Two weeks is not a long time to make the decision. It’s not a now or never decision, you can take more time and decide to get it done at a later date.

ComeOnGordon · 10/05/2019 13:24

I agree with the PP - best decision I ever made. I was 100% sure that I never wanted to be pregnant again and in 12 years I have never changed my mind. It was such a relief to never have to worry about contraception as I was very fertile.

I was only kn the hospital for 6 hours - was an easy op and was back to normal the next day

Hatemadeupwords · 10/05/2019 13:46

Honestly not until your baby is 12 months. As sad as it is the first 12 months are still the most dangerous its not a massive operation to have done after.

Knitclubchatter · 10/05/2019 14:09

I had it done with my 3rd c/s. Best decision I ever made.

kelly14 · 10/05/2019 14:13

I will be having my 3rd section in Oct and I’m thinking of getting sterilised but also scares as it’s so final, seems sad in a way.
I know I don’t want a 4th but I just don’t know.
I have a 14 year old, 1 year old and 17 weeks nearly so will have hands full so I know it’s the sensible option.

outvoid · 10/05/2019 14:16

I know it’s easier to have it done at the same time as the CS but I would wait until the pregnancy hormones have subsided personally. You don’t want to make a life altering decision like that whilst you’re pumped full of hormones.

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