2nd baby... 8 years after first! Anyone in or been in similar situation?

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Hi all! MN newbie here!

I'm 30 years old with an 8 year old son from a previous relationship.
My current partner and I are expecting a baby due (I think) in early December. Our first scan is booked for 23rd May so will find out for sure then.

I am super excited about this baby but equally soooo nervous about doing it all again almost 9 years later! I feel like I can't remember how to do anything! This will be my DP's 1st baby and it is like all his birthdays and christmasses have come at once!

We haven't told my DS yet... we are waiting until the scan. He has just found out that his Dad is having a baby with his girlfriend too, and their baby is due early November. I'm a bit worried that he will find it too much of a shock going from an only child to having two half siblings in the space of a month!

If anyone has any advice or reassurances for me I would really appreciate it!

Similar position but my son is ten. And in actual fact quite thrilled as he doesn’t like being an only child.

I started the telling him by telling him he was very much loved, nobody and nothing would ever stop that and that if he ever feels a bit left out he must tell me and we’ll make time to do something special together.

I also pointed out that he can earn extra money by helping out as he has a go Henry card where he earns pocket money each week for small tasks. He was keen on that idea!

Similar.. my daughter will almost be 10 when this baby is due!

Gosh I didn't read your entire post before, my situation is almost identical to you. My daughter came home at the weekend and told us her dads having a baby with his new girlfriend. They are due 4 weeks before my baby. They do my head in. We had s miscarriage in January and my daughter told her dad. Then and only then have tget decided to have a baby. We sold our house last October then they decided they needed to too. If I wasnt pregnant again now I'd be fuming. I wonder if they'd copy us if we jumped off a bridge!

Hi, congratulations! No real advice yet but I'm in a similar position - I'm due to have my second DS in October and my first is nearly 8, although with the same partner. We thought we didn't want any more but changed our minds!!

So far I'm a bit annoyed thinking about all the baby stuff we have sold/given away/thrown out as we will have to buy it all again, and especially as we are having another boy we could have reused some clothes, but never mind! My DS is really excited to be a big brother, and to do some babysitting when he's a teenager!

Also similar here, ds is almost 6 and he is really looking forward to having a baby brother, he has asked to help with feeding and looking after etc
At first he was worried I wouldn't have enough time for him but I explained that as I'll be off work for 6 months then I'll actually have more time for him than usual.
As for not remembering how to do anything, it will all come back to you once you start getting into the frame of mind.

My son was nearly 9 when my baby was born, I was really worried about starting all over again with my new partner and how my son would react (he has severe autism, adhd and a moderate learning disability). I was certain it would be too much to cope with. I was very wrong, he loves being a big brother and he is very helpful.

My son turned 11 during my second (very unplanned 😁) pregnancy.
Initially he was thrilled when he found out, but also shocked. He then took a while to adjust to finding out I was having a girl as he'd always wanted a brother. He also has a half sister so I think that was another reason why he really wanted a brother too.
Fast forward to now, my daughter is now 3 weeks old and my son couldn't be more in love with her. I'm a single parent so it's just the 3 of us in the house and he is so helpful being the age he is I can ask him to watch her or fetch things etc and I'm amazed at how things have just fallen into place so nicely.
As for having to remember everything from the first time round it all comes back to you as soon as that little baby is placed in your arms 🙂 I've gotten extremely used to my sleep over the years and I'm amazed how well I've coped being so sleep deprived again lol. I honestly can't imagine how people have children close in age together, they deserve a medal because I don't think I could do it lol.
I'm sure your son will be over the moon when he finds out, it might be abit of a shock initially but he will have plenty of time to prepare for babies arrival.
Also me and my sister are 10 years apart and she was like a second mum to me, I have many happy memories of us when I was little 🙂

I have a 13 year gap between daughter (14) and 1 year old son and am 16+2 with 3rd.
Comes back to you as soon as baby here x

Omg we so similar! My son turns 8 in December and I'm due end of November with this one.
I also haven't told my son yet as waiting till first scan. It's so long since I had him I can't remember what it was like being pregnant last time around but I am excited to do it all again

Me! My son will be almost 10 when this little one is born (I’m 23 weeks now due end of August).
I feel so impatient this time round, I want to meet him now!
I don’t feel too scared of the birth because I can’t really remember the last one!

my son is 18 and daughter is 5 months 🙈 me and his dad's new wife were pregnant at the same time!!

I had my 3rd 8 years after my 2nd. My older children are great with him and it all comes back quickly.