Pregnant & Terrified

[Weasel82]

Hi All,

This may be a trigger

Bit of background, almost 5 years my full term pregnancy ended in tragedy as my daughter was stillborn, it was by far the most horrendous thing i have ever gone through and took me a long time to heal and my mental health really suffered, i still think of her daily but i'm in a better place

Now i am in a different relationship with a great man, good job and house and i am also just over 5 weeks pregnant so very early days! Problem is i am already terrified and i have such a long way to go, i will be consultant led this time and will never go over my due date

Does anyone have any experience of counselling in pregnancy? i think it might be good to talk through all of my worries and fears with someone, although i have a lot of family and friend support i think someone impartial might be best, was also thinking of a viability scan in a couple of weeks but i don't think that will give me reassurance either

i really hope i haven't upset anyone, but if i did i'm sorry

Counselling sounds like an excellent idea. I don't have any personal experience here but do suffer anxiety which has worsened through this pregnancy. I was already seeing a counsellor through work and have found it very helpful having someone impartial to talk to. Maybe speak to your midwife to see if they know of any counsellors who specialise in pregnancy anxiety and birth trauma? Do you think you may have some PTSD? I'm very sorry for your loss and wish you all the best in your pregnancy.

thanks for replying @Onlyinanemergency. i will talk to the midwife, they have't' been in touch yet and i have moved to a different area since my daughter. I got extreme health anxiety a few months after, self medicated with alcohol mainly but got help eventually with medication and counselling and i am in a much better place now

i just want to enjoy this pregnancy so counselling is the way to go i think! thank you

Good luck. I also have some health anxiety due to a problem in my last pregnancy. Counselling has helped me get on top of it. All the best going forward.

No personal experience to share but I think counselling could definitely help you, wishing you all the best with this pregnancy

I'm so sorry for your loss I just wanted to second that your midwife should be able to help. I had 2 missed miscarriages before this pregnancy and I've been so anxious this time. At my booking in appointment the midwife was really supportive and told me there were options for counselling if I needed them, so you should be offered it. I also had 2 early private scans purely for my own mental well being - at 8 weeks and 10 weeks. They only gave temporary relief it's true but it helped me through. Wishing you luck this time around, I hope all goes well for you x