All I read is doom and gloom on having two children I just want to here something positive ?

[Loudloopy]

I'm due to become a family of four in four weeks times and the anxiety is increasing as I'm getting closer on how I'm going to cope and adapt and I read nothing but horror stories 😭 my LO is 2 years 3 months, I'm worried how he's going to adapt and how we're going to adapt and how the new routines will be etc, can someone give me a more positive outlook rather than the doom and gloom ! ?

Hellllllp

I loved having 2, similar age gap to yours (just a few months closer together). It was busy, busy, busy but I had no time to feel anxious or overthink things like I did with 1. The 2 year old still napped and was in nappies and went in a buggy and I had no jealousy issues. They became my little friend and 'helped' with the baby. I never felt lonely like I did with just 1. Honestly it's a roller-coaster but every day had such special moments. Focus on the good stuff and you'll do just fine x

Due my DD in July when my DS will be 2 and 3 months too. I'm very anxious about the same things as you @Loudloopy so it's been nice to read positive replies. I have a very mummy orientated DS, and I worry so much how he will cope. Fingers crossed it'll be hard but worth it. Good luck.

Three year age gap between my two, here. We have just left the baby years (no more nappies!) and they get on so well with each other. DS adores his little sister, whilst she enjoys bidding around his friends.

It is hard work and there will be competing demands and jealousy. The good news is that you are more confident the second the around and the baby usually just slits straight into the toddler's routine.

My best tip? Get a sling or baby carrier. It's a lifesaver when you are breastfeeding or burping and need to run after a toddler.

I've just had dc2. Dc1 is 19months. Seeing him kiss his brother goodnight or ask for him when he first wakes up is the loveliest thing. Dc2 is only 3 weeks so we are still adapting routines etc but Dc1 has taken to being a big brother better than we could have expected

Why doom and gloom? Everyone i know enjoyed 2nd /3rd time more in the pragmatic sense, as they know how to handle a baby like a pro..

Mine are 14 months apart. First years were easier than now because they fight and talk back all the time.

Yes more stress juggling, busier.. but also more love and bonds between siblings etc.

My eldest are 21 months apart and it was totally fine, I expected it to be really difficult but it was nothing like adapting from no children to 1 with my first. You're already helping them toilet, in a sleep routine(or not), dealing with lots of washing etc. The work load is pretty similar only now you have them to occupy each other (with supervision of course), you know exactly what you're doing, and you get to enjoy watching them grow together. My eldest actually wanted to walk everywhere from 2 and im sure it's because he wanted to be the big brother, he was so good bless him, but I barely got to use the double pushchair. People are telling me I'm brave now with number 4 but my elder 2 are 8 & 10 and youngest will be 5 so I'm not expecting any big change tbh, if you're a mum you spend your days being mum whether you have 1 or 4 as far as I can see it. Enjoy it all. Xxx

Having one child is amazing.

Someone said to me that they feel having 3 children is like having your own little tribe. I didn't get it at the time, but having number 2 definitely changed us and made us feel like a proper family, life changed and when they were little yes it was hard dealing with two but the good times more than made up for it. Having 3 gave me a tribe and as exhausted as I can be I completely love having my 3 dc. We thought we couldn't get pregnant with our first and we tried for 6 years so I value every moment with the three that I have. Those photos I have when they are all giggling and laughing and have their arms around each other are priceless and definitely worth it

My two are best pals. Watching their relationship with each other is probably one of the most fantastic experiences of my life.....

I went from one to 4 over night. Mu husband has 3 children from a previous relationship. So we have my 7 Yr old and his 4, 8 and 10yr old. We also have one on the way now. Happiest I've ever been. My son loves having his step siblings in his life and I love how busy it all is.