I'm broody!

[Mamof8]

I don't know what to do. I've been feeling really broody the last couple of weeks. I'm due to be sterilized tomorrow morning. I've already have 8 children and I've been fighting to be sterilized the last 10 years I don't know if it's because now it's finally being done after all this time or am I really ready??
My husband has said that he was gutted when I did come on last month as i had and have all the symptoms but things happen for a reason.

Is my body playing tricks with me??

Being broody isn’t a good enough reason to have more children in itself.

If you’ve been wanting to be sterilised for a decade why did you keep having more kids? Or are they all over ten? Just curious as your phrase ‘begged’ implies you really did want to not have more kids.

Being sterilised is a big deal and it’s not a dichotomy between be sterilised or have another baby you know. You could not be sterilised and use contraception until you’re sure you want the procedure.

If you’re having doubts don’t do it, it’s a big step to make. It’s likely you feel this way because one chapter of your life is closing and it’s scary to imagine no more babies or pregnancies. If you’ve been fighting so long for sterilisation you must know deep down it’s what you want. You’ve had 8 children so you are very lucky, would it be right for them or yourself to have more babies? If you know it isn’t then have the sterilisation and enjoy your children. Broodiness is normal but not necessary to act on each time.

Broodiness is normal and many women will feel it at various points in their life. It’s not enough of a reason to bring a child into the world. Focus the energy of your broodiness into the 8 DC you already have.

Have you spoken to your DH about this in any depth? Having 8 children is absolutely no reason to hang up your maternity bra! Some women choose to have no babies, which is right for them. Some women have umpteen. And neither is wrong.

If your DH is also feeling like another child is in his destiny, now is not the time for you to be sterilised. But only you can know the answer.

Sounds to me like much of your adult life will have been about being pregnant and raising children and the possibility of retirement from that is spooking you. There are also other ways that you could have children in your life if you go ahead with the sterilisation, but also be mindful that what was right for you yesterday might not be right for you today or tomorrow and it’s completely ok to change your mind, particularly if the surgery is unnecessary (for contraception rather than health benefit I mean). Good luck @Mamof8

If your not ready to do this then i wouldnt do it, talk to your husband and see what he wants aswell.