Miscarriage - please help.

[MeganTxx]

Hi Ladies.

I appreciate there are more than likely very very similar posts, but I ask that you please all give me your opinions on this.
I haven't slept a wink all night, and whether it be good or bad I really need some help putting my mind to rest.

I am 9 and a half weeks pregnant, me and my partner were ttc and moved into our new home the week I found out I was pregnant, everything was so so perfect the bfp could honestly not of come at a better time.

Friday 26th, I had my booking in appointment, the pregnancy was confirmed and everything got so much more real and so much more exciting! Yesterday though, the 27th after a day of shopping I went to my brothers house, I was busting for a wee so ran straight upstairs, after wiping there was blood, not a lot just slightly (this was around 4:45 yesterday afternoon)

I have been bleeding ever since, only lightly nothing heavy but the pains are like period pains.

I called my midwife and she booked me in for the earliest scan she could which is tomorrow.

Like I said, whether good or bad please give me your honest opinions, this is my first pregnancy and I'm so so scared but I want to try and best prepare myself for whatever is going to come my way tomorrow.

Thank you for reading x

@Darkstar4855 - everything you have said is exactly what I want to ask. The other tube is damaged (blocked), I have been doing some research online and apparently there is a procedure we're the tube can be unblocked, id like to know more information about that and whether I would be offered it.

The surgeon did mention about if I was to get pregnant again, they would do a very early scan, but if in her words the tubes are blocked does it not make it impossible to to travel through?

We were ttc, but didn't feel like there was a rush, I'm mid twenties my partner late thirties, I know men seem to be able to have kids at any age but his thing is he doesn't want to be the oldest dad in the playground which I completely get.

Knowing I was pregnant though; and then having it taken away has made me really want a baby! I'm not trying to rush into anything, I'm well aware my body needs time to heal, and so does my mind, but I'd at least like to know what the next step will be when I choose to take it.

Hi @Dontwalkaway - I'm sorry to hear you also had to go through a eptopic pregnancy. If you don't mind me asking, how long was it until you felt 'normal' again, If that's the right word to use?
I am a complete emotional wreck, I'm not sure if it's hormones or that I'm just not handling things well.

I have been advised today that I shouldn't try and conceive naturally, as they strongly believe with the left tube being blocked it will result in another eptopic pregnancy, they are going to send me a letter to go back in a few weeks so I can properly discuss my options.

I know other people have suffered the same as me, and so many people a lot worse; but I just feel as though no one properly understands what I'm going through.

On one hand, I want to know my options as soon as possible, and I want to be able to start the process, on the other I feel guilty, will people think that by me looking at ways to have another baby I didn't truly care about this one? Because that couldn't be further than the truth, i was over the moon to find out I was pregnant and even though I shouldn't I blame myself that everything went wrong.

Just want someone who's been through this to help me understand, well not understand but advise if the way I am feeling is normal

Aww im so sorry this is happening to you. In tears reading your story.
I have nothing helpful to say but diddnt want to read & leave without saying anything
Sending you x

@Dontwalkaway thank you for that, after reading your message I actually feel like that was I am feeling is normal, it's a horrible horrible experience and I wouldn't wish it on anyway, but it is nice to hear that someone has felt the same as you and that you are not alone.

I took a notepad to my appointment yesterday, I will continue taking that notepad to any further appointments and writhing down everything I am told.

@Angelinthenightx - thank you so so much lovely ❤️ the support I have received from everyone has been so so amazing, not sure how I would of got through without it