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9 weeks Pregnant & can't stop worrying

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Meli13 · 27/04/2019 20:46

Hi all,

This is my first post ever as I found out a few weeks ago that I am pregnant. I didnt think this would happen as I have PCOS, endometriosis and other fertility problems. So I am so shocked and happy that it has happened naturally and without IVF. I am also rather overweight and 37 years old which I know hinders your chances, so this is also a massive paranoia for me as this increases issues in pregnancy in general. I am due on November 28th 2019 and finding it so difficult to stop worrying! Are others having this same problem?

Any reassuring stories or reasoning would be greatly appreciated to help me through this time.

Any twinge and symptom and I am concerned. I have also noticed that lately When I pee I have white particles in my urine. Is this a normal thing because of the extra mucus ones body is making?

I just cannot wait to get through my 1st trimester as then I hope I shall relax a bit more as I'm so paranoid about missed miscarriage and miscarriage in general.

My first scan isn't until end of May at which time I should be around 14 weeks and it's an agonising wait as I am panicking which just isn't healthy for me or the baby.

I like to hear from anyone as so far I have told very few people and I am bursting for support.

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EnjoyItAll · 27/04/2019 21:01

congratulations! I am 19 weeks with our first and eagerly counting down to scan no 2 next week. I wish I could tell you that the feeling of reassurance lasts after the 1st scan but you then worry about when you should feel movement! I think it's perfectly natural to worry but I found putting my health, well being and fitness a priority really helped. there is nothing you can do for your baby except give it the best possible environment to thrive in and to get yourself in the best place for the changes to come. Also have lots of little things planned so you have other non baby things to look forward to as it helps prevent it becoming all consuming

RedPandaFluff · 27/04/2019 21:02

Hi @Meli13 - I feel the same, except I'm a month behind you. I'm terrified every single day that I'll have another chemical pregnancy/early miscarriage. I have a scan booked in 2 weeks time as it's an IVF baby, so they scan at 6-7 weeks to check for a heartbeat. Have you thought about getting a private scan now to reassure you? It's about £80 usually.

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Meli13 · 27/04/2019 21:18

Hi EnjoyItAll,

You are right there is little sense in worrying as what occurs within your body is out of your hands so to speak and as long as I am doing my best health and well being wise on a daily basis then I genuinely have no control over other circumstances. My intelligent side of my brain knows these things but still any twinge I get the niggling doubt. I think I shall regret it as yo a point, pregnancy should be enjoyed. Even with all the tiredness and sore boobies lol. Thank you for your response as it it reassuring and congratulations on your pregnancy also. Smile

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MyDcAreMarvel · 27/04/2019 21:23

I was very anxious also so booked a reassurance scan, it was £50 and really helpful. A strong heartbeat at 8 weeks plus dramatically reduces the chance of miscarriage.

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Meli13 · 27/04/2019 21:28

Hi RedPandaFluff,

Congratulations on your pregnancy Smile

I know exactly what you mean. From the moment I found out, I was so worried with it being my first time and so very unexpected! I did have a scan at 7weeks at an Early Pregnancy Unit in London as I went to hospital as I was having terrible ripping pains on my lower right side. Turned out that everything was ok but the pain emanates from the ovary from which the fertilised egg was released. So that put my mind at rest but my first official scan after going to the doctor shall be at around 14 weeks. Not sure I can wait that long and shall book an interim private scan. I think as it's so unexpected and because I have issues in that department I want to do anything to keep reassuring myself. You really shouldn't worry but I know myself it is so so difficult. As long as you are doing the best for you and baby now in the sense of eating, exercise and taking folic acid then we really have no hand in what could happen. It's totally out of our hands unfortunately. But telling yourself this and accepting it I know is so very very hard. Tgat is why I thought I should get on Mumsnet for help.

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Teddybear45 · 27/04/2019 21:42

I have PCOS too and am 8 weeks- IVF pregnancy for me. Would suggest asking your GP for tests to see if you have a clotting disorder and to test your TSH (thyroid hormone) as I was told PCOS suffers tend to have both issues. I have 3 clotting disorders, PCOS, and hypothyroid and am basically terrified all the time; but am being treated. Just need to hope I find a NHS consultant willing to keep me on my current treatment!

EnjoyItAll · 27/04/2019 21:49

Everyone says pregnancy should be enjoyed until you tell people and admit your fears and everyone agrees they felt the same (or at least that is what I have found!) don't put pressure on yourself for having concerns or worrying as from all the advice I have been given that worrying continues into their adult hood! keep taking each day as it comes and enjoy the bits you can Smile I hope the scan goes well and you get lots of lovely photos

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