Struggling to cope with older dc whilst pregnant

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... Just wondering if anyone is on their 2nd/3rd/4th pregnancy and in a similar boat.

I have a 4 year old and a 18 month old. Both reasonably easy kids in the scheme of things, but obviously they're young and still need a lot of attention.

I'm only 18 weeks but my sickness and tiredness is so much worse this time round.

I am just so tired and I am just struggling to do basic stuff like bedtime and dinner time.

Dh was out all this afternoon and it was just exhausting. I'm a bit concerned about how much worse it's going to get!

Not really anything I can do about it but would be nice to know I wasn't the only one as feeling a bit pathetic right now.

Today has been a rough day for me. I'm 15 weeks but exhausted, DS is three.

DH packed me off to bed for a few hours this afternoon and I feel bad that we haven't left the house all day, just watched films.

DS was bouncing off the walls by the evening. I've got a heart problem as well which has been caused by this pregnancy and can't walk far so days out have been limited.

Dreading getting heavier and more tired. It definitely feels worse second time around.

But you are not alone

Oh dear Billy I'm sorry about your heart problem.

Yes same for me, I caved and put the TV on for the older one. Feeling like such a crap parent and it doesn't help when you hear about all the nice stuff other families get up to over the weekend.

I have a four yr old and a two yr old who are routinely having a great time getting up to whatever they want while I’m asleep mid afternoon.
Came in to find they had got into the biscuit tin the other day and shared the contents between them . I was proud they shared tbh although less impressed by the climbing they had to do to get the biscuit tin.
They have also had unauthorised painting sessions and den making seasons that involves tipping the living room upside down.
I’m 22 weeks so coming out of that bone crunching tiredness, like yours they are good kids really.

Dinner is still a lot less fancy than before, I’m feeling very guilty about the amount of oven cooked things in breadcrumbs they are eating. But they are enjoying it

Thanks fairylights and middledistance! Feeling less guilty, my situation sounds similar to yours!

It's tough isn't it, with a lot of my 4 year olds friends, they are the youngest with older siblings so their lives are so much more fun as they're going to lego land and peppa pig world etc. I don't even have the energy to take them to the local park!

Dh is good and will take them swimming etc and my parents help out too during the week but there's still a lot of time when they're with me when I used to take them out but now I hold out as long as poss but then wack the TV on, and yes middledistance, way too many fish fingers for tea!

I guess it's not forever and I look forward to feeling a bit more like myself... Whenever that is.

Ugh me too!! I've a 6 year old and a nearly 3 year old and I'm 18 weeks too- so very similar boat.
I'm spending a lot of time zoned out on my phone, and both of the older ones are behaving more obnoxiously as a result. I honestly don't think that yesterday I had any lovely warm connection time with my eldest AT ALL, just interventions when things kicked off and hassling to do things. Poor kids!!
I'm REALLY hoping this gets easier, otherwise I think I may have grossly overestimated my ability to parent 3. DP is brilliant and very hands on but we are struggling!

Hey guys I have a 8 year old who is autistic and 6 year old who is very hyper and I'm 9 weeks pregnant I also have a heart problem and a thyroid problem an only 28 most doctors and that I see tell me I'm to young to be on all the medication I'm on but I'm so drained 24/7 I also have health anxiety just to top it off so I'm constantly worrying I'm gonna lose this baby my partner and I aren't gettin on atm either so it's all just seems to be falling apart atm hah but I no I will get there in the end good luck to everyone

I'm 27 weeks with dc2. My dd is 15 months old and I'm finding it sooooo difficult!

11 weeks with DC2. DD is nearly 3. Shes so good but I'm just so nauseous. Shes been getting a lot of oven food and ready made too. I feel bad but it's only a small portion of her life. I have to hold my breath when I open the fridge so cooking hasn't been going well.

I have an autistic 3yr old and a clingy 14month old i am struggling!!! I am 6 weeks tomorrow and my sickness is now starting🤢🙄😭 us mummys have to fight through it all.

Yeah DP did absolutely all the cooking from week 6 to week 13. Meals on my watch were cafe lunches and then he'd do the supper with breakfast and reheat it when he got in...