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Nightmare

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Ellie11111 · 23/04/2019 21:26

My story goes like this. Met a fella who was the most attentive and loving man I have ever met, we clicked instantly and fell in love. We were together for 5 months. When I met him, he had separated from his wife 2 months prior. His story was that she was abusive and controlling and his entire family backed this up with unprompted horror stories about this woman. Since we had met, he said he never felt happier and his family said they had the old him back again and it all felt perfect.
He has 2 kids to his ex so there’s always been contact to arrange access but this was generally hostile and not very friendly between them both, I stayed out of it.
Then 3 weeks ago, completely out of the blue he tells me he is going back to her but he knows it is a huge mistake and he loves me, ah ha, making no sense there. So I let him go, I’m not going to fight for someone who wouldn’t put me number one. So I’ve been spending the past few weeks focusing on myself and getting over him then I find out I am pregnant, complete shocker.
I contacted him to let him know and he immediately said I needed to get rid of it, I told him that isn’t an option and I then had him and the wife calling me. He then said his wife is also pregnant and they aren’t keeping it so I should do the same, no, I’ll do what I want!
So the Wife then texts me to say they are over and to wish me luck and he is then calling and crying because he felt bad for how he reacted to the news.
I feel like I’m in a soap, at the centre of the scandal and I’m feeling scared about doing this alone and angry at him while still being in love with him and now carrying his baby.
Any wonderful advice out there on how to dislodge my head from where it’s stuck?

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legalseagull · 24/04/2019 09:19

He's come crawling back because she's dumped him, not because he loves you I'm afraid. You can never trust him. It'll be hard on your own, but trust me, you'll quickly find your flow and settle in to it. Much better to be a single parent than a parent scared their partner is going to run off.

Omzlas · 24/04/2019 09:22

He thinks of you as his 'fallback'. Don't be that person, you're stronger than that and you can do this. He used you, then her and now he's trying to worm his way back in, presumably because she's dumped the sack of shit (and I can't blame her), don't be second best OP

Ellie11111 · 24/04/2019 10:20

Thank you for your replies, it’s a lonely old time this and I’m trying my best to be strong. I have no doubt he’s crawling back to her now, makes me feel sick.
I’m not sure how I deal with heartbreak as well as pregnancy

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