Struggling to make a decision

[pandasnow]

Hi! I am 28 and about 6 weeks pregnant which was a shock. I am in a happy relationship of 2 years with a supporting partner. My OH is happy to go ahead but wants me to be happy. At the moment all I feel is worry, I have felt no excitement or happiness. I am scared of being judged by my family for rushing into pregnancy and before getting married. I also feel like we are in a good position to go ahead so I feel complete guilt for having doubts. I just don't know what to do and was hoping for some advice.

If your family didn't judge you, would this change anything?

I'd say write a list (!) Pros and cons. What would be the hardest thing about each circumstance? Do you definitely want kids at some point?

Your at a good age and in a relationship etc so seems perfect time to have a baby,if you did Want to have children that is.
Your family shouldnt judge you,it is scary telling people but it will be fine.
If you were not worried about family would you be happy about being pregnant?

Hi! My advice would be not to worry about what your family think, as you might be surprised by their reaction and find they are a lot more supportive n you think! And if they’re not, well, the most important thing is that you and you’re partner are secure. I don’t think being married makes much difference either. It’s more important that your partner is loving and supportive, and financially you feel stable. At the end it comes down to how you feel. I think being scared is totally normal but what is scaring you and do you think your perspective may change as time goes on? I can’t tell you what’s right.

I had an abortion at 5 weeks because I wasn’t in a stable position to have a baby. I do think that’s a valid choice but an extremely difficult one. I went through a very dark time and still occasionally wonder if I did the right thing.

Meditate on it carefully and make the best choice for you.

It is very understandable to be worried. Do what is best for you, not for anyone else. Marie stopes are great if you want advice on abortion. Just advice. They were so kind and caring when I talked to them. Do what you feel in your heart. That is the best option for you. If you feel like going ahead with it that is great too, but I totally understand your fear. Much love and hugs