My partner mostly lives in Berlin but we share a flat here too in London. Since I became pregnant he has made countless promises to be here more often but none of them have amounted to any change in his travelling to and fro. It’s driving me crazy as I don’t know what drives him to keep making plans that he is unlikely to keep, part of me would rather he didn’t make them at all but the lure of security they pose always for a while bolsters my sense of trust.
I appreciate there are at times very valid reasons he has to stay in Berlin but all the same I find myself resenting him when I am feeling sick or lethargic from work and he is not here to help when he said he was to be.
I am now five months pregnant and he is planning to be here more permanently when I reach 7 months initially the promise was that he would be here for three weeks of every month, this month he has been here for 6 days. To his credit he hasn’t missed any of our appointments but it seems like that is the only important part of the pregnancy he is wishing to engage with.
I’ve decided to ask my best friend to also be my birth partner, I feel like she has been more present for my pregnancy and that she is absolutely reliable. I haven’t yet told my partner that I’ve asked her, when I mentioned it before he was quite taken aback by the idea.
Sorry for the rant, I am having a bad night of feeling frustrated and isolated and was wondering how other people deal with long distance relationships?